LB85 Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 I can't stop wondering why a guy would choose to string a girl along?What does he get out of her? A guy who doesn't date you, doesn't get sex from you etc but makes a contstant effort to stay in touch except doesn't ask you out? Is it to feed his ego in a certain way?Is it because he isn't sure he likes the girl enough?Is it because he wants to see how far you'll go? What is it?!! He did once ask me out for dinner to 'make up' for something but I went away, I then asked for us to plan it when I got back and he never responded again. I even invited him to my birthday after that and even mentioned the dinner. I showed my interest and he knew I liked him, so he didn't have to be afraid of rejection I think he wanted to be friends from the beginning, a flirt for sure...player type of guy but he would always hang around with me and try to keep in touch all the time (online though). This went on for a year (i know I'm stupid!)
Cora Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 I'm not really sure....perhaps it is just to boost his ego. Then again, some guys string girls along who they really aren't that interested in until they find one who is right for them. Maybe they are just bored and want the company. It could be they are afraid of anything serious, so they don't put their all into it. A lot of people do this.....women too, and it sucks! I guess you just gotta try and avoid people like that if possible. Save yourself the pain and drama.
Hkizzle Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 I was about to say duh.......sex, but you mentioned no sex involved. In which case it's very simple, he just lost interest and pulled out. I mean girls do it all the time mid courtship, why not guys? He saw something he didn't like and felt it wasn't worth it anymore.
messiah Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 yea it goes both ways. Guys do it to girls and girls do it to guys. Quite sad really.
boogieboy Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 The guy strings you along because he knows you're too afraid to make the move. You need to move in for a kiss or something, and then you will know if he wants to take it further. But if he isnt making the move after a year, hes not that into you anyway. So stop torturing yourself and make a move. He cant string you along if you dont let him.
Author LB85 Posted September 29, 2009 Author Posted September 29, 2009 Oh I did just give up way back, he ended up disrespecting me anyway so I doubt I would want anything from him anymore anyway! However, I am still stuck on figuring out what this guy was up to. He keeps asking this common friend things about me and he always sees me first (but I thought I do that when I see my bestfriend in a room full of people too). And these things don't matter anymore anyway but damn he showed more interest than the guys who even did like me so I dont get it and I just want to know why he did that!!!! The least I could do is learn from it!
boogieboy Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 However, I am still stuck on figuring out what this guy was up to. He keeps asking this common friend things about me and he always sees me first (but I thought I do that when I see my bestfriend in a room full of people too). And these things don't matter anymore anyway but damn he showed more interest than the guys who even did like me so I dont get it and I just want to know why he did that!!!! The least I could do is learn from it! He just wanted you for a booty call. Now stop worrying about it, theres nothing to learn. Go get a guy that shows consistent interest in you.
limitless Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 I can't stop wondering why a guy would choose to string a girl along?What does he get out of her? A guy who doesn't date you, doesn't get sex from you etc but makes a contstant effort to stay in touch except doesn't ask you out? Is it to feed his ego in a certain way?Is it because he isn't sure he likes the girl enough?Is it because he wants to see how far you'll go? What is it?!! He did once ask me out for dinner to 'make up' for something but I went away, I then asked for us to plan it when I got back and he never responded again. I even invited him to my birthday after that and even mentioned the dinner. I showed my interest and he knew I liked him, so he didn't have to be afraid of rejection I think he wanted to be friends from the beginning, a flirt for sure...player type of guy but he would always hang around with me and try to keep in touch all the time (online though). This went on for a year (i know I'm stupid!) What you described sounds almost just like me. I am very flirty with girls whether I am interested in them or just like them as friends. At the end of the day, I have fun talking and flirting with the girl whoever it may be.
kamrentailor Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 Hi I read this Post. I thing he is cowered. I know what you mean, its not a problem with all guys because there are some seriously good guys out there, but there are a bunch who do stuff like this. i think its a control/pride thing. a lot of guys do this so they can keep the attention of multiple girls at a time even if they don't like them. some do it to show everyone how "hot and cool" they are and all these girls are all over them. Don't fall for guys like that because they typically don't want any meaningful relationship with you.
lino Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 Obviously he wanted an ego boost. Only solution is to ignore him or treat him like *****. Up to you try to keep in touch all the time (online though). This went on for a year (i know I'm stupid!) I don't get this. Why would you get worked up about someone who only contacts you via the internet? I'd think someone considers me as not important enough if they only contact me via the net and I wouldn't bother with them. Maybe in the USA it's different?
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