jimbo Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 This one is a difficult one to comprehend, on many levels. I hadn't seen this girl for a few months. It was a weird breakup via text. -RECAP- Actually, I instigated the breakup by suggesting we should cancel the next date cause she cancelled the current date out of nowhere with no good reason. She agreed. Sent another e-mail saying fine but don't understand how she could just drop everything when a week ago everything was going well (her words). She then replied two weeks later apologizing for the late reply and explained her albeit peculiar reasoning. Replied back, think I was drunk cause I wrote it on a Saturday night a bit tipsy, and she never replied again. -END RECAP- Anyway I just send her an e-mail to see if she would be interested in going to a show with me that I had tickets for in her city (this was about two months after we broke). We live about an hour away from eachother. I said to myself what the heck and send the e-mail over. She replied the the next morning saying it was great to hear from me and she'd love to go with me. Said it'll be a fun date. She then said we should talk over the phone before the event. I got a bit overwhelmed when she said that and replied back great to hear back from you. Surprised you were going to be interested. If I knew you would be, I would had asked you to other events sooner (I have clients in her city). Asked her to give me a call cause she rarely picks up the phone and always goes to voicemail. Never heard from her. Of course, I did not call her either and gave the tickets away to a co-worker (they were free), and left it at that. I have also been on a good amount of dates with other girls, mostly older, none really have interested me very much. I daily think about her. This is going on since Aprilish. While I would like to pickup the phone and call her out of the blue, I think I may have screwed my chances by not following up with her back in June. Ironically, two of my past girlfriends had contacted me out of the blue. One, was who I dated last year for four months (it did not go anywhere). The second was one I dated right after this girl. I tried again with her, but she was back to her old games and called it off. The first one, I was no longer interested in and wished her well. I am hoping that she would be like one of these two can call or e-mail me, but it does not seem likely. Again, very stubborn. I can go on with tales from when we were going out where she was as stubborn as heck and would not change her position even though the alternative was correct and she was wrong. But she has a really caring side which is amazing, for one. She was always able to make me happier just being with her. So what do I do? Some say I should leave it and some say I should roll the dice one more time. Ideally, I would love to bump into her in the city, however, that has never happened. She's also as stubborn as I am and FIERCELY independent (one of the attractive qualities that I like). If I call her, it would feel weird and a bit awkward. If I don't then I guess I don't and attempt to find another girl of interest; which has not been an easy task.
samspade Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 If you have to game plan like this and "roll the dice," you know it has a very low chance of working. You are putting too much effort into one woman. Put her on the back burner and work on some new chicks. Give yourself some options. The less you care, the more likely you are to succeed.
Author jimbo Posted September 29, 2009 Author Posted September 29, 2009 Good point Sam. Trying to move on and letting the chips fall where they may.
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