newbie Posted November 27, 2003 Posted November 27, 2003 I very confused about my current relationship. I just started dating a guy who just got out of a long term relationship. His relationship was in the relationship for 4 yrs. We starting dating pretty shortly after it ended. Approx 2-3 weeks afterwards. Our relationship became pretty serious pretty fast. It has been only 2 months, and already made travel plans for the holidays together. I am scared he might be using me to stop the pain of his broken heart. Another thing is am I the rebound girl. If so How do I prevent from being the "rebound"??? I really like him & don't want to be wasting my time just to be hurt at the end of the day. Plus another thing is, when I was over his place. His mom called him. I guess she found out he was seeing someone new. and didn't mention it to her. He was actually trying to hide the fact he was seeing me. From the sound of the conversation it seem he was quite a shame about how soon he seeing me. He did n't even want to tell her about me. But it slowly came out over the phone conversation. Becuz he let his mom think things with his ex ended due to no time for anyone right now. I guess his mom was hurt, becuz she thought him & the ex would get back together & marry one day. I am so confused!!! Why doesn't he tell them about me. Please help!!!
Arabess Posted November 28, 2003 Posted November 28, 2003 Geez.....sounds like you've got yourself a real Spineless Wonder there! I would be hurt and extremely aggravated. Maybe he is embarassed that he persued another relationship so quickly after the last girl. You didn't say why they broke up......maybe it has something to do with how and why THAT happened which would cause his Mom to feel he wasn't ready for a new woman in his life. In any event, I think I would ask him right up front....WHY he didn't want to tell his Mom about you......and WHEN did he plan to correct it.
lost_in_chgo Posted November 28, 2003 Posted November 28, 2003 This is normal. Not wanting to get the family into the middle of your relationship too early is probably a good thing. Especially when things are unsure. Alot of times the expectations of introduction to the family are different between two people depending on the closeness of the family and the history. It may be that he just doesn't want to deal with the family about it right now. Don't assume the worst. Have you asked him about it? If no, why not? Are you keeping him at a distance? Talk to him about it. Ask, don't push. Tell him you are curious. He might surprise you. I've gone thru a similar thing, and I had no idea it was important to her. It just hadn't worked out schedule wise. Had she ever told me, I would've addressed it immediately because it was never a big deal at all. I would've been happy to introduce her.
newbie Posted November 28, 2003 Posted November 28, 2003 I 've know him for awhile. So I was friends with him when he was still with her. And from what I remember He was and still is a momma boy. So he thells her everything. He use to talk about how much he loved his ex when they were apart or how they met. He is the type of person who would annouce to the world he is seeing you. So I don't know why is a shame of me. He is break up with the ex was becuz he was some space to concentrate on school. And maybe a girl friend was right at that point. Then after their split, things started to heat up with us. So I feel maybe I am just the girl of the moment. Becuz he does care to tell his family about me. But I am special enough to spend the holidays with. I am Just so confused!!! Maybe he is confused. Who knows!! I haven't mention anything to him. Becuz I don't want him to know I was listening to his conversation.
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