PurpleCat04 Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 Hello all, I am in such a mess rightnow and before I start talking about my problem I'd like to thank you all for listening. So I've been with this guy for like 7 months. Things are good. We're in two different states so we can't see each other often. Maybe once a week or even less than that sometimes. I was happy with him until I met up with my ex. It was the real recipe for disaster. My ex and I went out for like a year. Broke up twice. Four months into the relationship, he ended things for him still missing his ex. I cried and tried to talk him into staying. He wouldn't. He told me to forget about him so I cut all contacts. Three months later, he asked me to take him back. I was seeing someone then but without hesitating, I dropped the new guy and got back with him. Things went well until 6 months later he decided to go on a break. I was too tired to ask why so I let him be. One month after the break, I met my current and we've been together since. I should also note that my ex is from the same neighborhood as my current. Two months after we broke up, I let my ex know that I would be in town to fly out for another country so I could meet up with him to take a few things that I left at his place back. We met up. We made out and I told him that I am involved with somebody else. When I got back to the country, he picked me up, drove me home and we made out again. I decided not to see him again after that. I felt too guilty. We still talked online sometimes. Just last week, he told me that his new girl is not treating him well and so it made him realize how much he put me through and he apologized. I said it's ok, he's like no I really am sorry. He told me that he's much more mature now than then, he has changed. And that the reason why broke up is no longer valid as he didn't understand it then. We broke up because he thought we weren't compatible. But I think in fact we really were. He was just confused. Now he's telling me that I am the one that treats him the best and that he was wrong. I told him that sometimes I wish we were still together but I know it would never happen as I am injured. He said noone knows what the future will bring. It bugged me. I started thinking about him. So I decided to meet up with him again. We hung out at the mall, talking and laughing together like we used to. While we were there, I saw him with a new pen. ( He always used to use this pen that his ex gave him, so I decided to get him a new one, he didnt use it because he didnt like the design) I asked him if the new girl got it for him. He said yes. I got upset. He told me that he's using it because he likes the design and he became better than before. If I gave it to him now he would use it. It still upset me. So I tried to seduce him. I started kissing him. He kissed me back but very hesitantly. He said it's wrong. We're both in new relationships. I like the girl. You like the new guy. I got angry and hurt because he said that. I told him that I hate your new girl thats why I wanted you to cheat on her with me. I won. He said I will always be his favorite girl and that we will always be friend. After that day, I started feeling like crap. I feel like when we first broke up. Broken hearted, confused, sad, depressed.....What should I do? Cut all contacts? Try to get back with him? If I wanted to get back with him, I would have done it the first time we met up again. I knew he wanted me back but I told him over and over again that there's no chance we would get back together. Is that why he gave up on me and moved on with the new girl? I am so hurt that he's with someone else. Did I hurt him by getting together with the new guy so fast? I really didn't consider his feeling at all when I told him that I got a new boy....I am stuck...please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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