kgyula Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Hi, so here's my story: (past) I met a girl earlier this year online, same age, same town and we even have a common friend. She's not the kind of girl who hangs out in the town every weekend so it was quite hard to ask her out. A date was fixed... but for some reason it went wrong (i still don't know what happend exactly, but she came very stressed, we talk for half an our or so and then she left, saying that she was nervous and she had a bad day - she was like this from the first moment) I didn't wanted to insist, the summer hollyday came, we talked from time to time, but didn't met again. (present) few days ago she celebrated her birthday and i tought it would be nice to write her a message saying happy birthday to her. she replyied almost instantly that I am very cute and she is very impressed that I rememberd her birthday Since then i've sent her a few text messages. And in one of them i suggested her it would be great to talk face to face about recent news (i didn't used these worlds and it was something general because i didn't wanted her to fell that the happy birthday message was just a warm up for something more) she said ok, and she keeps replying to each of my messages. tonight, after some mesaging i wished her a nice day tomorrow and I mentioned that i will call her after work (the strange thing is that she didn't replied to this last message) Ok, so it's clear that she's interested in a way or another because otherwise she would be ignoring my messages. Now, knowing that she tends to be unpredictable, she's the home staying type of girl how fast should I act ? I'm willing to call her, talk a bit and then ask her to go our for a drink or something but i'm wondering it it would be that simple.... and I guess i may need a review of the situation from an external person because usually I know how relationships would evolve... but when it cames to me... it's harde you know
phineas Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 Do as you said & call her when you said you would call her & ask her if she wants to get together. She'll either say yes or no & she may blow you off even if she says yes. she sounds flakey or just not that into you. If she blows you off loose her number. You made your intentions known & she has your number if she wants to talk to you. It's how I would handle it myself.
ashleigh422 Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 I agree with PHineas.. if you put yourself out there again and she again puts you off.. ditch her.. SERIOUSLY.. it does sound like she is flakey or just not that into you.. she just wants attention...
Author kgyula Posted September 29, 2009 Author Posted September 29, 2009 ok, so i've got news for today (it sounds optimistic... this is the way I view things) I called her at around 8, I waited for about half a minute but she didn't answared the phone. I wrote her a message asking her to buzz me when she can talk. ... since then... nothing now seriously, i don't belive that then or since she wasn't able to reply. the question is just if she wants to play with me, if she is to shy / scared or i don't know what...
boogieboy Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 ok, so i've got news for today (it sounds optimistic... this is the way I view things) I called her at around 8, I waited for about half a minute but she didn't answared the phone. I wrote her a message asking her to buzz me when she can talk. ... since then... nothing now seriously, i don't belive that then or since she wasn't able to reply. the question is just if she wants to play with me, if she is to shy / scared or i don't know what... Stop making excuses for her, she blew you off. Shes wasnt shy the first time she agreed to meet up with you was she??? She doesnt want to hang with you. On that first date, This is what happened. Ill translate something for you: "I'm stressed, Im leaving because Im nervous, and I had a bad day" Is girl speak for "OMG this was a bad idea, I dont like anything about him, I gotta bail." She thought this as soon as she saw you. My man, you are really desperate for not seeing this and hanging onto her for so long. You need to ask out more girls so you can have more choices, and sp you will recognize when they are blowing you off.
Author kgyula Posted September 29, 2009 Author Posted September 29, 2009 ok, I know, and I agree with you, you are right. and the truth is that for severel weeks I never even remembered her, this birthday stuff was just an... opportunity, chance.... we can call it in several ways... and seriously, some may disconsider this, but I'm the type of guy who usually goes after one or two chicks and it's obvious that my chances are lower that the chances of a guy who askes out 10 girls a day. but i'm not a man of numbers, i don;t like any girl. plus i have a terrible atitude towards girls who are interested (too much) in me.... when i see this, my interest level usually drops but as a conclusion, i may need to change this
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