aerogurl87 Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 Well what bothers me about my boyfriend is the fact that whenever I ask him what does he want to do when we hang out or go on a date, he gives the same answer of "it doesn't matter" or some variation of that. I've learned to deal with it because I know that's how he is. He hates planning things in advance and is more of a "go with the flow" type of guy which has it's good points. Especially when he randomly decides to take me somewhere at the spur of the moment.
boldjack Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 I was raised to treat everyone with respect, especially those less fortunate than me. My wife is from a rich family and is a terrible snob, and where I look for common interests with other people, she looks for ways to feel superior to other people. This drives me insane, and almost stopped our marriage. I know that she tries so hard to be less judgemental and Elitist and she does this for me, so it makes me love her all the more.
splintered thing Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 Anger and hostility, whether it's in the form of screaming rages or days-long quiet fuming, especially when it seems completely random and unpredictable. I think it would be easier to deal with if I understood what was behind it...and that's a tough one to talk about because merely broaching the subject just kicks it off all over again. (Though, I suppose, at least those times I know what prompted it.) Being belittling and insulting bothers me, too, but I've had more luck (and even a measure of success) with discussing that and my feelings about it. The other one that comes to mind is prejudice--having a partner who just hates certain people because of their race, sexual orientation, or whatever. I like people and it makes me uncomfortable to keep hearing about how somebody else doesn't...even though the people they don't like have never done anything to hurt or even bother them. I think I've been lucky, though, that I've never had a relationship where the little things that a partner did bugged me. By and large, the little things tended to be charming, cute, and/or otherwise appealing. Unfortunately, I don't think my exes would say the same about me.
laRubiaBonita Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 there are little things that bug me about my husband- but really they are small things and i rarely if ever say anything, because these are not things i would want to bug him about... i know i have my quirks and annoying habits too.. * i do not like the way he loads the dishwasher or puts the dishes away- so i try and do it... the man does not get pre-rinsing or soaking. * he leaves the kitchen cabinet doors open * he leaves the fridge door open when he is making something to eat * he doesn't put stuff bck into the fridge until waaay later- and then when he does he just throws everything on 1 shelf * he doesn't clean his whiskers out of the sink * he will slow waaaay down instead of passing a car, even if the other lane is empty * he leaves his dresser drawers open but he does alot of stuff i do not, like home improvement stuff
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