Island Girl Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 i am still crazy about him even though i know i shouldnt be.. I kinda could gather that. No one gets hung upon this stuff because they want to figure out human behavior or think the person is interesting, etc. You haven't admitted it to yourself up to now then you haven't dealt with those feelings - or worked through them. Stuffing them doesn't help at all.
Mixitup123 Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 If you're really interested in this guy.....then ask him all the questions your asking us next time he comes in to your work or calls..only he can give you the answers or lie to you and tell you what you want to hear..but you sound smart enough, you'll be able to figure out by his face and body language if he is lying to you or telling the truth! ask him.. a. Do you still have a girlfriend? (it shouldn't be hard to answer if he lives nearby) b. Why are you so interested in me? c. What are you looking for a relationship? or ...... See how he reacts! You'll know the answers as soon as you ask him..unless he is a very good liar that is..and if he is ...beware!
Author brenda collins Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 I have admitted them but i thought i was over it and the minute i got that text they all came flooding back again. It seems so silly as i only knew this guy for a few months (since april) and we werent even in a proper relationship... It turned out in the end i knew nothing about his life at all.. yet he has caused me more heartbreak than my long term boyfriends ever did.. I am now back to square one and dont know what to do.. HE will always be there i can never avoid him we are basically neighbours..and i am pretty sure now he will always bother me........
Author brenda collins Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 Also.. this is nt the first time i have fallen out with a lover and months or years later they have come back.. It seems to always happen to me.. Another guy i was seeing but fell out with as he wouldnt commit properly has recently returned from uni and proclaimed that he wants to have sex with me.. and he wont give up.. th more i rewfuse to abide to this agreement the more he tries.. I said some pretty harsh words to this guy when things ended as well.. I just dont get it...what is is about me
loveslife Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Also.. this is nt the first time i have fallen out with a lover and months or years later they have come back.. It seems to always happen to me.. Another guy i was seeing but fell out with as he wouldnt commit properly has recently returned from uni and proclaimed that he wants to have sex with me.. and he wont give up.. th more i rewfuse to abide to this agreement the more he tries.. I said some pretty harsh words to this guy when things ended as well.. I just dont get it...what is is about me It's likely because they feel you don't have boundaries and they can get laid.
Author brenda collins Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 but i was so harsh to both of them an made it clear i would not be treated like that
C-i-C-u Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 This would have been my thread title, :They always come back...." and in the post ".....for more after you hit them. So guys man up, start hitting women".
Author brenda collins Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 seriou advice only please
C-i-C-u Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 seriou advice only please ok. He wants to impregnate you and then leave. You shouldn't let your emotions cloud your brain. This guy is only looking for sex, and that is what you might be looking for but it mostly sounds that you want a relation. Whereas he is ready to have sex with you again because you want too and he can feel it. Don't do it.
Lucky_One Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 but i was so harsh to both of them an made it clear i would not be treated like that You aren't making anything clear at all, if you are still interacting with them. Guys like this are like toddlers - negative attention is better than no attention at all. Tell your boss that this guy is bothering you, and let your boss wait on him when he comes back in. Honestly, the guy treated you like dirt before. Why would you even WANT to be treated like crap again?
Author brenda collins Posted September 29, 2009 Author Posted September 29, 2009 any one else got an opinion on this mess.... i havent heard from him since he cam into the shop over the weekend do we think he will try and contact me again..
CaliGuy Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 any one else got an opinion on this mess.... i havent heard from him since he cam into the shop over the weekend do we think he will try and contact me again.. I think you have plenty of good advice here. It seems that you want validation to re-establish the relationship and no one is giving you that advice. And for good reason. Do what you want, but if you get back with this guy, you are asking for trouble.
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