nimishakapoor Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 My uncle asks for pecks on the cheeks usually, and today I was doing some work on the laptop and didn't turn when he asked for it. Instead I distractedly offered my cheek. Out of the corner of my eye, I saw him do the same and realized belatedly that he was asking me to peck him on the cheeks. So I turned, and unfortunately he turned at the same time, and our lips touched :lmao::sick: I was so disgusted!!.. And I told my guy about it as I didn't wanna hide anything from him. And now a huge mess has been created.. He's naturally very upset about that, and thinks that now everytime he kisses me, he'll think of that fellow's lips on mine :sick: .. Arrrghhhh!! I'm so disgusted yaar!! My guy is trying to be very understanding as he's a great guy, but he's very hurt and so am I, cuz none of it was intentional.. What do I do now?? How do I deal with this? Please please help me.. I'm going through hell! :lmao:
samsungxoxo Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Don't see why he's hurt about it. You already told him it was an accidental kiss with your ugly and you are disgusted. If he doesn't want to believe you or keeps acting drastic about it, tell him ''Look, I did not cheat, wanna believe me ok, if not, there's the door''.
Lucky_One Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Good Lord. What a lot of fuss over a silly missed kiss. I kissed my BF's brother square on the lips once - we double cheek kiss, and we both went for the wrong side. It was a bit repulsive, and we both laughed about it, and that was the end of it. BF saw it, he laughed as well. Your BF is HURT? You are going through HELL? What in the heck is going to happen with the two of you when you have a REAL problem??
Author nimishakapoor Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 ^^ He doesn't think I cheated. He's just hurt cuz my lips touched someone else's.. He's too protective about me, and already he has suffered in the past. So now, he's extra careful with me. And he's hurt that something like this even happened.. I don't know how to make this alright, cuz I myself have suffered molestation in the past and these horrible feelings just resurface more cuz of that.. I myself feel so damn cheap, and well.. kinda unpure
Author nimishakapoor Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 @ lucky one - I understand what you're trying to say. Its just that my guy has got a past history of his ex cheating on him, and he has seen many of his friends having been molested in the past. Same is the case with me. He just wants me to be safe as he's paranoid it will happen again. And well, you can say this kinda triggered it up. Also, I feel horrible as well cuz the feelings I got when I was molested as child resurfaced..
Lucky_One Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Then perhaps a couples therapist and some IC for you is what is needed here, LS isn't really equipped to deal with sexual abuse issues.
Author nimishakapoor Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 Thanks .. You made me feel better by not taking this too seriously. I'll consider the couples therapy in future Then perhaps a couples therapist and some IC for you is what is needed here, LS isn't really equipped to deal with sexual abuse issues.
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