hannie_1988 Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 I'm getting sick of this situation where I constantly get confused, being misunderstood and worried where I'm going to stand. Why do guys have to be so dramatic and complicated about themselves, it's really annoying. I cannot handle it anymore, my heart has been feeling quite barren lately. I've been friends with this guy for quite a while now, we seem to be pretty close and tell each other a lot of things. I feel comfortable around him, he makes me so satisfied, I enjoy his company and I have faith that he's not the type of a guy who will end up fooling me around. However, he is quite confusing and misunderstanding at times. I've confessed to him how I feel towards him so many times because I believe it's really worth it. Like when you like someone, you gotta admit your feelings no matter what or how many times because you are showing what you are feeling about the person. If the person is feeling the same or indecisive about you, always willing to give a shot or finding the way where you're going to stand. Well this guy is really wonderful, intelligent, easygoing, riotous and thoughtful. I really love talking to him and getting to know him better everyday. Whenever we talk less or more it doesn't seem to change anything about us. When we hung out, we were pretty tight and close to each other like we were about to make out but I avoided it because I wasn't sure if it was a good idea. This was the first time when we met, he seem to look a bit confused why I wouldn't give him a kiss. So I took the gut to tell him what I have been thinking about us, we had a really good talk. And everything turns out to be unexpected what I was assuming about him. Last night, we hooked up because I thought this is what he really wants and had to let it go without worrying too much. I felt really happy and content. After few hours, it suddenly began to go a bit weird. I don't know how to explain it.. Like he began to stop talking and getting ready to drop me home. To tell you the truth, I really don't like it when it happens. I mean how could you suddenly stop talking to someone after making out or something? :S. I feel like something is going wrong with us, like he was trying to lead me on or avoid to admit the truth how he feels about me? Then he sent me a message after he dropped home saying he felt bad about what happened and I did too. Maybe we were rushing into things but I can't help it because he's really attractive and I like him a lot. It's impossible for not allowing you to kiss someone you like? It's normal to show affection, I don't seem to find it wrong. :S Later on at night, we talked for a bit.. What I found out that he was a bit awkward to make out with me last night? I didn't mention about it why he was feeling that way and so on. I was surprised because I thought he would be comfortable and happy around me. But it wasn't, I wish I didn't have to kiss him. But why would he want to kiss me and then feeling awkward after that?! I mean you gotta be sure to kiss someone if that’s what you really want? You can't let yourself kiss someone because the person likes you! That's a dog act if it does happen! I'm not sure if it's true that he really likes me or maybe he wants to say it to make me feel happy or protecting me from getting hurt? I don't understand, really I don't. Should I walk away and forget about him? Or should I give it more time and be laid back? I need HELP! Please. I want to get out of there and stop being so upset and confused! Thanks.
SierraRose Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 It is confusing. I am a good natured person; as twisted as it seems when I am nice I get walked on. When I am a bitch, my a** gets kissed. Go figure....
loveslife Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Why do guys have to be so dramatic and complicated about themselves, it's really annoying. I cannot handle it anymore, my heart has been feeling quite barren lately. First, not all guys are dramatic and complicated. Second, relationships are merely a reflection of who we are inside. Third, if this relationship is making you so nuts and he's running hot and cold then it's clearly not a good relationship, no matter how good looking the guy is. JMO
Author hannie_1988 Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 Loveslife: "Third, if this relationship is making you so nuts and he's running hot and cold then it's clearly not a good relationship, no matter how good looking the guy is." Not necessarily, it doesn't always mean it's not a good relationship. It's probably means he's indecisive of what he wanted from a girl or either a commitment. Sometimes it takes time for men to figure out what's the best for them to be with/out a girl and how to become a better man. Also, not every relationship has to be perfect, we all have moments for good and bad times with a partner or a person you're seeing. It would be boring if it's always good, nothing bad happens. It gets challenging when something goes wrong because we wanted to learn from an experience for ourselves and others. There are so many things to learn and do which needed to be in balance. Thanks for your advice, I hope everything will turns out to be good in the future. I wish you all the best too.
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