dell2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 When i first started dating my gf 8 months ago, we had this cheesy talk about boo and babe. Yeah, I know. she said she calls all her girlfriends boo, and me, the only guy. okay cool. well today i see a text she sent this guy (she slept with like a year ago 3 times) and she answered a text he sent about going out to the bars as "sorry boo not gonna be here etc working thsi weekend." so I'm not really mad that she called some other guy boo, i mean i'm bothered and the fact that she coulnd't say oh im with my boyfirend all weekend (i dont even think he knows she is taken, doesnt seem like it to me), but what really gets to me is that she told me i was the only one she called that. so it's the whole concept, and lying. when i confronted her, she said she didnt realize she texted that to him, and she would work on it. and i shouldnt' be worrying about stupid little stuff since she puts her efforts in the bigger things, like being together hanging out, etc, since we are LDR. she said she would work on it and wouldn't call anyone else boo not even her firends, since she may accidentally text that to a guy. but seriously, accidentally? am I an idiot for letting this get to me?
Aries77 Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 It's really not such a big deal, man. Let it go. If the behavior continues, then I'd start to be concerned.
Ronni_W Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 am I an idiot for letting this get to me? Not yet. But you're kind of skating on very thin ice Might I suggest that you ask her to come up with a NEW, just-for-you pet name? Because 'boo' sounds like it's become a mental habit for her (she does it without even being aware), and it is going to be hellishly difficult for her to break that. And you are gonna blow-up at her every time she 'falls off the wagon', and you'll accuse her of lying and deception, and you'll develop trust issues, and you two will end up breaking-up. Basically, she may have gone and made you a "promise" that she'll find extremely difficult to keep. You would be the noble and wise man to let her out of that not-very-well-thought-out "promise", and both of you just do something completely different.
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