JohnP82 Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 OK, so I've been thinking about this topic for some time. I've even seen it once on the TV show How I Met You Mother. In an episode two of the characters go after the same girl and one hooks up with the girl. At some point the other guy is about to hook up with her but can't shake the vision of her and his friend going at it from his head. My question is has something like this happened to you, whether you're a guy or a girl? I ask because I've also found myself in this situation a few times. One of my roommates attracts women like moths to a flame. He literally can get any women he wants. However sometimes they lose interest in him or he is done with them and then they suddenly become interested in me. For whatever reason I can't bring myself to want to date or do anything else with these women. It's like after they do something with him, or any of my friends for that matter, they're written off completely. I don't think it's a Retroactive Jealousy thing, it's more like I've seen you stubble out of his room in the morning and we share a common wall thing. I hate to use the term "sloppy seconds" but could it be a fear of that? Have you experienced this?
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 I seriously can't even imagine getting it on with somebody that a good friend of mine has been with. Weird. Especially like you say - having shared a wall and watching the walk of shame. The only time I've experienced something even remotely similar was when I was in HS and I was getting ready to go on a first date with a guy. I knew who his ex was and she was NOT attractive. I knew he and I were going to kiss, and I couldn't get her face out of my head. LOL Beyond that - never dealt with this kind of thing. If I knew the friend before the date-interest, I don't think they'd BE a date-interest.
Lucky_One Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 I wouldn't date a guy that one of my friends has dated recently (let's say in the past 4 years). Part of it would be the wink-wink of knowing that she knows what I am currently enjoying, part of it would be the competition factor (was I better in bed, was her body better, how do we compare in his mind), and part of it is the code of "don't date my exes" that I was brought up with.
Author JohnP82 Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 Yeah I will agree, the don't date your friends exes code is important to maintaining the friendship. Also I wouldn't be able to get the picture of my friend going to town on her out of my head.
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