device04 Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Hi Everyone, I have a bit of a dilemma, which at this point most of my friends tell me I'm just an idiot for even still being in this situation. Some of you may remember me posting a month or so ago about a girl who was just throwing out a lot of mixed signals. Basically after we continued to see each other for a couple weeks (a month total), she brought up that she would be "okay if you wanted to see other people". I was a bit taken aback by the comment and we didn't discuss too heavily except she wasn't ready to be in a serious relationship but really liked spending time with me. Since then we've gone on a long weekend trip together, seen each other a few times a week and got along well most of the time. And yes, we were sleeping together, and that part was great. I think sometimes it feels weird/awkward (at least to me) because it seems neither of us really knows how to act with the other as far as not wanting to seem too boyfriend/girlfriend like, especially after her previous comment. Anyhow, when we got back from our trip this week, we sort of had another talk about things and she finally came clean that not only was she not ready for a serious relationship, but that *she* wanted to see other people. There is a part of me that's okay with this (not because I have a ton of dating opportunities or anything) as I don't really want a serious thing just yet, but at the same time I was intrigued at where this could go. The end of this discussion was that I was okay with her wanting to see other people, and that we'd just see where this goes going forward but I felt like neither of us wanted to come out and just call it quits for whatever reason. I didn't expect to hear from her again, and had decided to let it go until she finally called me tonight after not hearing from her in 5 days. We had a generally normal conversation and she seemed a little more upbeat than usual. We didn't make plans or anything, she just left with a "talk to you later". Alright, so now what to do? I suppose part of me already knows the answer and that's to stop letting this girl play games with me. I guess I just need a few more people to call me names and tell me I'm being stupid for even considering sticking around. Punish away!
SierraRose Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Just sounds like she wants her cake and eat it too. Don't make someone a priority when they make you their option. Date her, if you want but do not invest too much in it. If she truley cares for you, then she will be with you and only you.
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