ashleigh422 Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 So.. against all advice... three weeks out of bad relationship.. I went out with someone I ahve known for almost a year. In the middle of our date.. he gets a call. He says, its my aunt. I tell him,, you better answer it.. it could be about your grandma(who has cancer and things are bad). He agrees. He turns on his phone(iphone) and says hello. The volume is loud.. then a woman says "are you mad at me". He says... what?.. while turning down the volume on his phone... then he says Ill call you later.. and gets off the phone.. I'm leary. Not that im ready for a R yet.. but why waste my time? So later, i say.. So everything I know about u is the truth and is real? (I met him online and kept in contact with him as friends, even though I got back with my ex...) He laughs and says what? I say... Like you are single? and he laughs.. says yes.. and that was it. I didn't want to ask about the phone call because I hate to seem distrusting... already.. but does this sound odd to anyone else? Ohh yeah.. btw.. I guess it wasn't really a date, we met.. he picked me up and we went to the park and talked for hours... that was it.. by my choice...
SierraRose Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Regardless if you want a relationship of not, sounds like he might be in the middle of a break up or something like it. My advice? If you don't want drama, stay away.
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 LOL...YES, it sounds odd. I don't think I'd be going out with him again. Unless you want to just straight out ask him what the phone call was about. I mean - he answered it right in front of you - it's not like you snooped on him.
Art_Critic Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 I'm leary. I didn't want to ask about the phone call because I hate to seem distrusting... already.. You should be leary.. you heard the convo.. he has another girl he is playing with..his Ex is still in the picture.. It's really just up to you at this point whether or not you go after him.. You know the deal going in...
Lauriebell82 Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 If it wasn't a date and you aren't ready for a relationship then why does this bother you? His aunt could have said "are you mad at me?" I agree it sounds a little suspicious that he turned down the volume after she said that. IMO I think you should take some more time for yourself and get over your breakup. You need to be in a healthy place and actually READY to go on dates before it could really work for you.
Author ashleigh422 Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 LOL.. thanks to all.. i agree it didn't feel just right already to be out with another person.. either way.. what does IMO mean?
New Again Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 IMO = in my opinion And I agree that that's shady and there's another girl in the picture.
green apples Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 This is an aside. But should guys be picking up phones on dates? Can that be used to signal interest?
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 This is an aside. But should guys be picking up phones on dates? Can that be used to signal interest? He told her it was family and she told him to pick it up. Now, if that were actually the truth, I don't really see what the big deal is. If you know somebody in your family is sick, I'm okay with a cell phone on a date. But as a general rule, I don't think it's very polite to be carrying it with you (unless it's on silent or vibrate and it's not interrupting your date). I have a habit of carrying mine EVERYWHERE and had not been on a first date in awhile and took it on the first date with the guy I'm seeing now. I got some kind of a text from my cell phone company saying my bill had been paid. LOL He thought other guys were texting me - I showed him the text because I was so embarrassed. Lesson learned - cell stays in the car - I don't have anything THAT important going on.
Author ashleigh422 Posted September 29, 2009 Author Posted September 29, 2009 In general.. i didn't have an issue with him answering.. He had told me a while ago that his GMA was ill.. with cancer.. She did end up dying that night, satuday, when we were out.. wow...
CaliGuy Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 I have a rule on dates. "Unless you have some kind of family emergency, your cell phone stays in your purse or car until the date is over." (Unless they have kids of course). The first time they look at their phone, I will remind them. The next time, I simply end the date. The way I see it, if I am giving you my complete attention on a date, ESPECIALLY if I am paying for the date, the least you can do is pay attention to me. The really hot girl that worked at the gym I went to? I took her phone away from her at a wedding we went to. Might have pissed her off, but so what. You're either WITH me or you're chatting with your friends (or some other guy). If your friends are that important, go hang out with them and don't waste my time.
CaliGuy Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 In general.. i didn't have an issue with him answering.. He had told me a while ago that his GMA was ill.. with cancer.. She did end up dying that night, satuday, when we were out.. wow... As much as that sucks....(And I am sorry for his loss). 1. He can't do anything about her health. 2. He doesn't need to hear about it until AFTER the date. I mean, I don't mean to sound insensitive here but really, why answer calls on a date over things you have no control over?!
Lauriebell82 Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 It's a pet peeve of mine when guys text/talk on the phone while on a date. Before I met my fiance I went on a date with a guy and all he did the whole night was text. I tried to engage him in conversation to draw his attention away from his phone but he just wouldn't stop. He then tried to kiss me at the end of the date and I was thinking "What if someone texts you while we are kissing?" (I should have said that!) I try not to text/talk on the phone if I am on a date with my fiance. I think it's especially rude when you are just first dating someone.
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