lookingforyou Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 How do you get over a date you think you performed subpar at? I was so excited to be going out with this guy and then I screwed it up. I don't know what to do about it now and would like to hear about what you girls and guys would do. I need to get over this, right?
Forsaken Heart Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 The thing is that, we would love to help you in your problem and all, but your post lacks information. Can you kindly edit your post and include like, the events as what happened, and more explanation. Thank you.
Lauriebell82 Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 The thing is that, we would love to help you in your problem and all, but your post lacks information. Can you kindly edit your post and include like, the events as what happened, and more explanation. Thank you. Yes. If it is too personal, could at least give us something to go on, like a general statement of what went wrong. It's hard to give advice on that kind of thing without knowing what happened.
Author lookingforyou Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 I think I was too nervous and came across colder than I really am as a person. I also didn't make any effort to talk about going out again. He was nice enough but I wasn't sure if he was just being compassionate. How do I salvage it or can it not be?
phineas Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Maybe it's just me in my old age but I think you might need to relax a little. If you left it wide open & made no decision of who was going to contact whom & you want to see him again just contact him. If like you said you think you acted cold & gave him the idea you wern't interested let him know you still are. He might think you wern't interested.
Hkizzle Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 I think I was too nervous and came across colder than I really am as a person. I also didn't make any effort to talk about going out again. He was nice enough but I wasn't sure if he was just being compassionate. How do I salvage it or can it not be? Just have fun on a first date. Don't think too much. You can't salvage a date on bad because if you start calling etc it comes off as needy. You just need to hope the other person wasn't put off.
carhill Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 LOL, my M was subpar. OP, you're your own worst critic. Nobody's perfect; a woman will always be mad at you about something. Get used to it
Author lookingforyou Posted September 29, 2009 Author Posted September 29, 2009 So phineas thinks I should contact the guy but Hkizzle thinks that would make me come across as needy? Is there anything I can do that doesn't make me look needy?
Author lookingforyou Posted September 29, 2009 Author Posted September 29, 2009 LOL, my M was subpar. OP, you're your own worst critic. Nobody's perfect; a woman will always be mad at you about something. Get used to it Carhill, what's M? I'm a woman so did you mean a man will always be mad at me about something? I know I'm my own worst critic. But I've done better on other dates so I'm disappointed in my performance this time. I really feel awful about it.
littlewhiterose Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 I wouldn't sweat it. I think everyone goes into a first date knowing there will be a little nervousness.
Lauriebell82 Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 I think I was too nervous and came across colder than I really am as a person. I also didn't make any effort to talk about going out again. He was nice enough but I wasn't sure if he was just being compassionate. How do I salvage it or can it not be? When I was dating I used to let the guy make the first move about another date. I agree with some of the other posters that you should try to contact him. Just play it aloof and say something like "Hey I had a great time the other night, I hope we can do it again sometime." That shows that you have interest but still leaves it open so that he can ask you out on a date. If he blows you off he isn't interested. But just limit it to one phone call: leaving a voicemail would be appropriate if he doesn't pick up. I think calling more then once or leaving a bunch of messages would be a little needy but one phone call would be okay IMO.
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