mike5770 Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 I am watching tv and turn on a movie..doesn't really matter the name they are all written the same..boy meets girl...boy and girl date...things go great for awhile then of course boy does something stupid and gets in fight with girl...boy calls 100 times leaves messages buys flowers/chocolates...etc....boy feels bad listens to song or is somewhere they used to be together..and happy ending girl comes runing back and says "I didn't know how much you cared..i love u i love u i love u..blah blah blah!!" and credits role. All of my real life experiences and I can guess most on this board never happen like this..u leave 100 messages and send flowers cops are at you door and u are a stalker..and it just makes things worse! Just an observation.
matt367 Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Yeah if life worked like the movies we all would have our ex's back and would go out to dinner with our best friend dane cook(haha never) but seriously relationships can be work sometimes and i know i roll my eyes at almost every romantic comedy nowadays because they are so exaggerated and nothing like real life. Good observation, keep them coming!
alphamale Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 if people wanted "real life" they wouldn't go to the movies. movies are an escape
GrayClouds Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Ever notice Hollywood romantic comedys have zero to do with real life! First the break-up and now this...I guess I see if I can get my money back from the flower/chocolates.
splintered thing Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 I have a hard time flying (with or without a cape), controlling the weather with my psychic powers, and operating a starship, too, but I don't mind seeing any of those in the movies either. Given a choice between a sappy, romantic movie with a happy ending...or a movie that sticks to the plots of my own romantic failures, I think I'd go for the former.
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Yeah, I have to agree about the escape thing. I can't remember many of the positive fluff movies I have seen, but the ones with dismal endings really stick out in my mind. Last American Virgin, for example. That poor kid.
grogster Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 I would love to be in real life versions of Notting Hill or Love Actually. People are attractive, witty and close friends, while oddball, are supportive and decent. Most importantly, relationships are always new, fresh and intense, full of passion, intensity and hope. Rom Coms are adult fairy tales where the lovers live happily ever after. Not a bad deal. Alas, real life continues to roll on after the credits.
grogster Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 And you just figured this out?! Of course not. But that's why I like well-made romantic comedies: the relentless optimism and role fluidity. Hip Boy meets Good Girl, whose involved with an unhip Mr. Right. Girl thinks Boy's a dick and Boy thinks Girl is prissy. Bad Boy and Good Girl are thrown together in some highly improbable situation, which changes their perceptions of one another and themselves. Unhip Mr. Right turns into Mr. Wrong, and Bad Boy and Good Girl discover that the Bad can be Good and Good can be Bad (in a fun way). So Bad Girl dumps Mr. Wrong and takes with with Good Boy, who's still cool. So they hook up at the end, and love conquers all.
Leia Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Of course not. But that's why I like well-made romantic comedies: the relentless optimism and role fluidity. Hip Boy meets Good Girl, whose involved with an unhip Mr. Right. Girl thinks Boy's a dick and Boy thinks Girl is prissy. Bad Boy and Good Girl are thrown together in some highly improbable situation, which changes their perceptions of one another and themselves. Unhip Mr. Right turns into Mr. Wrong, and Bad Boy and Good Girl discover that the Bad can be Good and Good can be Bad (in a fun way). So Bad Girl dumps Mr. Wrong and takes with with Good Boy, who's still cool. So they hook up at the end, and love conquers all. I was referring to the OP but thanks anyway for elaborating more on this. I can watch but I'd always roll my eyes while watching a Chick Flick or any rom-coms.
Nikki Sahagin Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Thing is.....I know that SOMETIMES life CAN be like the movies. I know in my last relationship, everything felt like a movie, a fairytale...thats why I sabotagued it, I was scared it was too good to be true. So life CAN be like a movie, but its incredibly rare.
brock9911 Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 most of those sappy movies end like that, but honestly if you ever saw the movie The Breakup, that ending sucked. it wasnt a happy one at all. and if you wanna see a depressing but great movie...Eternal Sunshine Of A Spotless Mind.
Dream Brother Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 This is why the ending of Castaway is so brilliant. It's heart wrenching as you don't expect things to end up that way. It was a big Hollywoodesque film and i sure did not see that coming. Bucked the trend. Thankfully. Sadly I now see my ex as my Wilson.
Nikki Sahagin Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Yeah Castaway and Eternal Sunshine are great films, but sometimes those endings hurt more because they ARE realistic and people watch movies for that escapism and validation of their deepest hopes and desires, even if we know that realistically they can't happen. I do like realistic films but I remember my dad showing me several 'realistic' movies as a child so I didn't have just fairytales and disney as my experiences of real life...and i'm sure they turned me into a childhood cynic:o
Nikki Sahagin Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Also I know its cheesy but Titanic - she loved Jack and lost him. Now surely....if it was FULLY cheesed up, Jack would have miraculously lived and they'd live happily ever after.
Exit Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 I'm not ready to give up on cheesy romance just yet, I still want to find the girl where flowers and letters DO make a difference.
Nikki Sahagin Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 I'm not ready to give up on cheesy romance just yet, I still want to find the girl where flowers and letters DOES make a difference. There will be one:) I think romantic movies are an escape yes, but they are also a reaffirmation that maybe...things CAN happen that way. Because I think they CAN. I may have my head up in the clouds but i've felt it before, without my rose tinted glasses on, I can remember the feeling. It is possible, but its easy to settle, especially when fear and loneliness set in.
Unsuccessful Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 I have never encountered any boys who actually call 100 times leave messages buy flowers/chocolates...etc All males in my life experience vanish/find new girl.
JaggedRoad Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 I called my ex twenty times one day and left her two messages x_x I regret doing that.
Taucher Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 This is all true. Unfortunately I think that these kind of films have skewed people's expectations of their real life relationships. The best film I have seen looking at relationships and the break down of relationships is Two Days In Paris. In it, an American bloke goes to Paris with his French girlfriend to meet her family. He gets all paranoid and it is SO true to life, although both charecters in it are a bit extreme. Seriously though, it made me laugh. And cry like a big softy. The ending is RUBBISH though. Would be the best film ever if it weren't for the ending. T
doe111 Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 hey mike thanks for making me laugh i needed a laugh and nope nothing ever happens like in the movies
brock9911 Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 a movie that always makes me feel pretty good after watching it is Across The Universe. i love the beatles and the way they redid some of the songs...great movie
t0ri Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 I've been avoiding romantic comedies/movies for the most part. Psh...I wish the guys in real life did things guys in the movies did. Sometimes parts from my past relationships felt like the movies, but of course, they didn't turn out like a fairytale, and my last relationship's ending was very ugly. 500 Days of Summer is a good one, and pretty close to real life imo. Of course Hollywood comedies are not realistic - nothing is perfect in real life.
splintered thing Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 Thing is.....I know that SOMETIMES life CAN be like the movies. I know in my last relationship, everything felt like a movie, a fairytale...thats why I sabotagued it, I was scared it was too good to be true. So life CAN be like a movie, but its incredibly rare. But at least you realize it. I've seen that happen quite a few times--where the couple in question could have had one of those amazing fairytale romances, but one of them just wasn't comfortable with things being "too good to be true" or with the scary possibility that things might really work out. But the opportunities are there and are real...at least occasionally.
JaggedRoad Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 Thing is.....I know that SOMETIMES life CAN be like the movies. I know in my last relationship, everything felt like a movie, a fairytale...thats why I sabotagued it, I was scared it was too good to be true. So life CAN be like a movie, but its incredibly rare. But you don't regret sabotaging it?
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