Isolde Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Probably you like a cockiness that presents itself in spite of a self-awareness of faults... not with a lack thereof. Ignorant cockiness is the WORST. I don't like this trait, as a continuous defining characteristic of someone, but I guess there are worse.
loveslife Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Probably you like a cockiness that presents itself in spite of a self-awareness of faults... not with a lack thereof. Ignorant cockiness is the WORST. I don't think the OP is talking about someone who is obnoxious. More someone who is playful. Notice the use of the word "slight."
Isolde Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 I don't think the OP is talking about someone who is obnoxious. More someone who is playful. Notice the use of the word "slight." I know what she meant. I think it's cute when a guy can be jokingly-cocky. People who take themselves too seriously tend to irritate me.
Author shadowplay Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 You'd love it in me, sweetheart. Of course, no one has ever referred to my arrogance as "slight". Or anything else about me, for that matter. Haha. I was actually thinking of you and The Collector as two examples when writing this post in terms of sense of humor. But you (Johan) might be too nice to qualify, which isn't a bad thing.
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 I'd say there are a couple factors (at least IMO). Because I know what you're talking about. First of all is their attitude. There was a guy in my class last year that was totally arrogant. And he was really attractive. But his attitude I did not like - because he felt he was superior. I can't stand it when people think they're superior. I don't give a **** if they truly are - you don't treat people like garbage. The guy I'm seeing now - can be slightly cocky. But he doesn't act superior to anyone. I told him one of the things I like about him is that he doesn't have an ego. He says, "I have an ego!" My response? "Yeah, but it's not effusive." I'd say that's the big difference. It's not like oozing from his pores and pushing people down. The other factor I'd say is if they have a "right" to be cocky. Simplest way to explain it, I guess. If they try to act cocky and there's really nothing to be cocky about - that's annoying.
Angel1111 Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 I think it's easy to confuse self-confidence and arrogance, and that may be why you think some men get away with arrogance and others don't. To me, there's a big difference between the two. I find self-confidence completely attractive, and arrogance completely repulsive.
Author shadowplay Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 I know what she meant. I think it's cute when a guy can be jokingly-cocky. People who take themselves too seriously tend to irritate me. I agree about guys who take themselves too seriously. I've been mysteriously attracted to a couple of guys in my life who were total pricks, and I still don't completely understand why since it's such a reversal of my usual feeling about aholes. They acknowledged it and everybody who knew them did. But something about their combination of personality, sense of humor and appearance just made it work. It was almost as if their ahole demeanor was part of the self-deprecating joke, like they were parodying themselves. It's hard to explain. Yet 99% of the time when a guy is an ahole I can't stand it. This might just be an idiosyncratic attraction of mine.
Author shadowplay Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 I think it's easy to confuse self-confidence and arrogance, and that may be why you think some men get away with arrogance and others don't. To me, there's a big difference between the two. I find self-confidence completely attractive, and arrogance completely repulsive. How would you describe the difference?
johan Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 But you (Johan) might be too nice to qualify, which isn't a bad thing. I'm not that nice. Ask Art. Nice to be thought of.
Author shadowplay Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 I'm not that nice. Ask Art. Nice to be thought of. Pssh....you're a total sweetheart inside and you know it
SierraRose Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 A confident, don't give a **** attitude. It's partly in facial expression, posture and demeanor. A guy who likes to banter and be sarcastic. For a LTR, that gets old real quick.
johan Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Pssh....you're a total sweetheart inside and you know it I assume you're saying this because I happen to like kittens.
EcstasyX6 Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 cocky Adjective [cockier, cockiest] excessively proud of oneself I find this characteristic in men very appealing and as someone alluded to earlier, it has to do with your attraction for the individual. My bf is I'd say is excessively proud of himself, but he's very sexy and handsome to me and has reasons to be cocky. Other woman could find him obnoxious. He doesn't wear his ego on his sleeve, but it comes out if you talk to him long enough. He's confident and not apologetic about it. These type of men get what they want in life in general or if they don't, they aren't afraid to go after it.
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 cocky Adjective [cockier, cockiest] excessively proud of oneself I find this characteristic in men very appealing and as someone alluded to earlier, it has to do with your attraction for the individual. My bf is I'd say is excessively proud of himself, but he's very sexy and handsome to me and has reasons to be cocky. Other woman could find him obnoxious. He doesn't wear his ego on his sleeve, but it comes out if you talk to him long enough. He's confident and not apologetic about it. These type of men get what they want in life in general or if they don't, they aren't afraid to go after it. That's the guy I'm dating, too.
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