green apples Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 Just back from a date with a new guy. We ran into a common friend during the date and at the end of it I got a text from the common friend asking what I was doing with the guy because she thought he had a girlfriend. The girlfriend thing never came up in the conversation. What does it mean? Do guys not mention their girlfriends? Does it depend on personalities? Or were we even not on a real date (the guy's a friendly person)?
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 More. Info. Needed. Who asked out whom? What were the circumstances? What was the "date?" How long was it? How long have you known him and from where? Did he try anything physical on the date? Jeebus, people - details, details, please.
carhill Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 Is the friend really a friend or is this another female territory squabble?
Author green apples Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 More. Info. Needed. Who asked out whom? What were the circumstances? What was the "date?" How long was it? How long have you known him and from where? Did he try anything physical on the date? Jeebus, people - details, details, please. We have a few common friends though we aren't close. I met him at a few parties but we hang out in different groups. He asked. It was just dinner of about almost two hours. Nothing physical but a good dinner nonetheless. So what do you read into the details?
Author green apples Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 Is the friend really a friend or is this another female territory squabble? Did you mean the common friend who texted me? I don't think it's a squabble.
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 I'm wondering if he has monkey disease. Meaning branch-swinging, or...trying to grab onto a new female before leaving the current one behind. It's possible he was testing the waters to see if there was anything there. I'd be finding out if he has a GF. If you have common friends, surely one of them would know. Was there anything flirty done/said on the "date?"
Author green apples Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 I'm wondering if he has monkey disease. Meaning branch-swinging, or...trying to grab onto a new female before leaving the current one behind. It's possible he was testing the waters to see if there was anything there. I'd be finding out if he has a GF. If you have common friends, surely one of them would know. Was there anything flirty done/said on the "date?" Not terribly flirty but he seemed to enjoy himself OK and we had good vibes. But is that common for guys not to bring up their girlfriends on any social settings?
Leia Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 What I learned from a few guys I dated was that, if you don't ask, there's no need to tell the girl if they have a girlfriend or not.
Author green apples Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 What I learned from a few guys I dated was that, if you don't ask, there's no need to tell the girl if they have a girlfriend or not. I wish some guys would clarify this on LS. Is there a reason for "withholding" this information? I've met guys who openly talk about their girlfriends or wives. I wonder if those who don't are looking for something more.
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 I wish some guys would clarify this on LS. Is there a reason for "withholding" this information? I've met guys who openly talk about their girlfriends or wives. I wonder if those who don't are looking for something more. Yes - I already stated it. He could be testing the waters to see if there's any kind of spark with you. If that's the case, of course he wouldn't mention another girl.
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