carhill Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 If this is the same ex I posted about a year ago, a synopsis of the history: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t164859/ Think of her as a venomous serpent for which there is no anti-venom anywhere. It doesn't matter what label you attach to her behavior. The imperative is avoidance
tryagaintoday Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 That's a good point about how the relationship is structured. If your ex and her b/f have an agreement that this is acceptable behaviour, then no, it's not cheating. Why not respond to her and ask her if her b/f is okay with this and that you'd prefer a response directly from him? I third this. My take? I will definitely not be agreeable for my current to send any naked pics or even her own pics (fully clothed) to any guy let alone her ex.
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 No I'm a highly successful young adult, I always been about money first, if my financial situation doesn't worsen, I expect to be a millionaire at about 45. Well, there you have it. My guess is that she wants to keep you on a chain for the day when you reach that goal and then she will come to you professing that she always loved you, never stopped, etc. Seems predictable. Me? I'd send the pictures to her boyfriend and ask him why she is sending these pictures to you.
hannie_1988 Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 Yes it's cheating. She has no right to do that and looks of it, she's probably bored of her bf and want to try out something different. I hope you're glad that she's not your girlfriend.
Quest Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 Yes, it's cheating. Feel sorry for her bf ... or tell him.
alexxx Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 My ex sent me naked/nude pictures of ya know kinda stuff, she has a new bf, is that cheating on her behalf? If she is doing ot with her bf knowledge, then it is NOT cheating; they are just making fun of you. If she is doing it without her bf knowledge, then she is cheating on him and he is getting screwed. Chances are you'll never know.
Author WiseOne1 Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 If she is doing ot with her bf knowledge, then it is NOT cheating; they are just making fun of you. If she is doing it without her bf knowledge, then she is cheating on him and he is getting screwed. Chances are you'll never know. ???????????? Well the part about maing fun, you can't make fun of a 20 year old with a Mercedez Benz, thats what I mean about MONEY, if you watch boxing, you can compare me to Money Mayweather. Anyways no he doesn't know, she actually started to cry onetime of how she felt that he didn't deserve it, and that hes just a nice guy.
Author WiseOne1 Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 "hes just a nice guy" there is that sick line again, lol sorry, don't want to hijack the thread and start a "nice guy" vs. "bad boy" thread. I am not saying you are literally bad, but you are focused on your own priorities, and not her. This makes you a little bit of a challenge. she wants attention from you, and don't be flattered, because you are not the only one who has received those pictures, I would bet money on it. Well I’m officially a nice guy, I've always been labeled as being a nice guy, I use to get the nice guy lines all the time, I don't even get the girl because she's always into the *******s, the fact of it is, is she only did it because he's no good and most likely cheating, she's one of the stupid females that knows a guy is up to no good and still stays with him. So I officially fall into the nice guy category.
Bejita463 Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Well I’m officially a nice guy, I've always been labeled as being a nice guy, I use to get the nice guy lines all the time, I don't even get the girl because she's always into the *******s, the fact of it is, is she only did it because he's no good and most likely cheating, she's one of the stupid females that knows a guy is up to no good and still stays with him. So I officially fall into the nice guy category. I don't know I would insist upon labeling myself with something that is most often perceived as a negative. That aside however, what exactly do you feel a "nice guy" response to this situation should be? Imagine the focal point of this situation is not you. It is someone you don't know, and they are explaining this to you. The most proper response for a nice person is... ?
Dexter Morgan Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 My ex sent me naked/nude pictures of ya know kinda stuff, she has a new bf, is that cheating on her behalf? YES, its cheating. if not at the very least, the actions of an unscrupulous pig when she has a bf whose back she is doing it behind.
Author WiseOne1 Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 I don't know I would insist upon labeling myself with something that is most often perceived as a negative. That aside however, what exactly do you feel a "nice guy" response to this situation should be? Imagine the focal point of this situation is not you. It is someone you don't know, and they are explaining this to you. The most proper response for a nice person is... ? I was just being truthfull, I'm a nice guy, theres no reason to lie about it.
Browneyedbelle Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 Think about it this way... if you two were still dating and she did that with her ex.. HOW WOULD YOU FEEL???
seibert253 Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 She says it's not cheating, but she also says if a dude was to do that to her she'd break up with him. Typical double standard of a CHEATER. If her new BF is not cool with it, then it's cheating. Ray Charles can see this one.
seibert253 Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 Here's a thought; forward the pictures to her new BF and let him know how and from whom you received them.
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