WiseOne1 Posted September 26, 2009 Posted September 26, 2009 My ex sent me naked/nude pictures of ya know kinda stuff, she has a new bf, is that cheating on her behalf?
clv0116 Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 Depends on the nature of her current relationship. Why do you care?
samsungxoxo Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 Not in my definition. Well I know people's views are different but in order for it to be cheating, he has to go to her house, see her face to face and they getting physically intimate in any way (ranging from plain kissing to sex). So no, it's not to me...
hopesndreams Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 Yes it is. Be thankful you are not her bf anymore.
Trialbyfire Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 That's a good point about how the relationship is structured. If your ex and her b/f have an agreement that this is acceptable behaviour, then no, it's not cheating. Why not respond to her and ask her if her b/f is okay with this and that you'd prefer a response directly from him?
Author WiseOne1 Posted September 27, 2009 Author Posted September 27, 2009 She says it's not cheating, but she also says if a dude was to do that to her she'd break up with him.
Roxanna Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 That's a good point about how the relationship is structured. If your ex and her b/f have an agreement that this is acceptable behaviour, then no, it's not cheating. Why not respond to her and ask her if her b/f is okay with this and that you'd prefer a response directly from him? This. (But it's cheating in my book.)
Trialbyfire Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 She says it's not cheating, but she also says if a dude was to do that to her she'd break up with him.Aren't you glad to be rid of her, double-standards and all? She's a piece of work!
Author WiseOne1 Posted September 27, 2009 Author Posted September 27, 2009 Hmmmm, when we were younger we were best friends and use to cheat on our gf and bfs together, so I would have a gf and we'd be cheating and she would have a bf and we be cheating. We were orginally so close that we considered eachother as sister and brother even labeled eachother as that, then we started becoming sexually attracted to eachother and it all went down hill there....
CarrieT Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 Which begs the question - WHY is she sending you those pictures? And maybe you should forward them back to her current beau...
Author WiseOne1 Posted September 27, 2009 Author Posted September 27, 2009 But we were legit bestfriends 100%, like the girls you see with male friends that you know will always be in the friendzone and nothing else, and it changed.
clv0116 Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 That's a good point about how the relationship is structured. That was mostly just me being pedantic, I'd say that the odds are strongly in favor of your first answer being right, and I like your proposed solution quite a lot. An even more interesting question to me is why the OP is even wondering about this. Sounds like he's not over it to me.
Trialbyfire Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 Are you reading your own responses? You know you're getting sucked right back in. Is this what you want? To have a side relationship with her, while she cheats on her other b/f?
clv0116 Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 But we were legit bestfriends 100%, like the girls you see with male friends that you know will always be in the friendzone and nothing else, and it changed. Are you 15 or something? I'm not joking.
Author WiseOne1 Posted September 27, 2009 Author Posted September 27, 2009 That was mostly just me being pedantic, I'd say that the odds are strongly in favor of your first answer being right, and I like your proposed solution quite a lot. An even more interesting question to me is why the OP is even wondering about this. Sounds like he's not over it to me. Lol it's money, its all about money for me right now, im 100% neutral, nothing for her, nothing against her. I feel nothing for her, and feel nothing against her, so I guess if you start out being best friends, especially for 5 years str8 your kind of get sucked in. But I've been on NC with her for atlest 2 months str8 now.
Author WiseOne1 Posted September 27, 2009 Author Posted September 27, 2009 No I'm 21, just turned it 2 weeks ago too.
Author WiseOne1 Posted September 27, 2009 Author Posted September 27, 2009 She owes you money? No I'm a highly successful young adult, I always been about money first, if my financial situation doesn't worsen, I expect to be a millionaire at about 45.
samsungxoxo Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 Seems like it's annoying you....If you want her to stop sending you those naked pics of herself, tell her if she does it again, you're send them to her boyfriend.. The part I don't get is she can it this but if her boyfriend does it, then she dumps him right away.... Talk about convenience and hypocritical on her part....
SpanksTheMonkey Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 My ex sent me naked/nude pictures of ya know kinda stuff, she has a new bf, is that cheating on her behalf? If it wasn't you wouldn't have to ask of course it is she can delude herself any way she likes. Its amazing how guilty people can convince themselves there innocent by any means! But now the fact she would dump a guy who did that to her tho is just priceless ha ha good one!
BobSacamento Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 She's fishing for compliments and maybe something more. Possibly testing the waters.
MichiganMan222 Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 Of course its cheating. If my SO sent naked pics of herself to ANYONE, it would be game-over.
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