alphamale Posted September 26, 2009 Posted September 26, 2009 Ok ladies say you're somewhere (bar, party, subway, etc...) and you see a guy. You don't talk to him but may make contact non-verbally. What is it about particular men that sets off your "bad boy" alarm given the above scenario. Is it the way he looks at you? His body language? His level of attractiveness? The way he's dressed? The way he stands or sits? Is he smoking? The group he's with? Or is it something more subjective like a feeling or vibe you get?
Roxanna Posted September 26, 2009 Posted September 26, 2009 I don't think I've ever picked up a "bad boy" vibe from anyone in that scenario. I don't think I ever get that "vibe" from someone unless I see him interacting with other women, or the way he interacts with me (more than just eye contact or nonverbal connection). It's not about the way he looks, who he hangs out with, or what "props" he has. Unless he has a blow-out. That's the only exception to the above.
EarthGirl Posted September 26, 2009 Posted September 26, 2009 it's the way they walk. like they are on a mission but they are not sure what it is they just know it's there. like they don't give a sh*t what anyone thinks of them, completely fearless, while at the same time they walk like they are completely aware at all times who is watching and they are almost scared out of their wits like little boys walking into a war. too bad I also find it so sexy. I just did not always KNOW at the time that it was a give away. Do me a favor boys, change the bad boy behavior, but good GOD, don't change the walk! other stuff may come later like tell tale phrases, ways of communicating, but that is way complicated Ill be too tired to talk about it for another 3 years or so. Some bad boys are really bad though without a conscience, and some are good people just confused and are really the ones who have been hurt the worst of all, they just don't know any other way.
always_searching Posted September 26, 2009 Posted September 26, 2009 Ok ladies say you're somewhere (bar, party, subway, etc...) and you see a guy. You don't talk to him but may make contact non-verbally. What is it about particular men that sets off your "bad boy" alarm given the above scenario. Is it the way he looks at you? His body language? His level of attractiveness? The way he's dressed? The way he stands or sits? Is he smoking? The group he's with? Or is it something more subjective like a feeling or vibe you get? I think it's mostly his general attitude in relation to others viz. expressions, body language, how he is interacting with those others, etc.. Of course, it also depends on what you mean by "bad boy." I mean, one could attribute that terminology to "an arrogant jerk who goes through women like he goes through underwear," or "a bike riding hooligan," or "human vice incarnate," etc..
Author alphamale Posted September 26, 2009 Author Posted September 26, 2009 Of course, it also depends on what you mean by "bad boy." and interesting and confident fellow that you would like to have sex with 10 times in one night
always_searching Posted September 26, 2009 Posted September 26, 2009 and interesting and confident fellow that you would like to have sex with 10 times in one night Ah. Gottcha. In that case, I would stick with my original response: it's all in the attitude, baby. Of course, it can't be too sleazy, but all confidence. Given the required scenario in your original post: I would determine this by his interactions with others, particularly other women, as well as the non-verbal interactions with me. So, for example, if he looks at me from across the room, maybe checking me out, but not blatantly so, and then makes eye-contact and smiles at me as though he is longing to ditch whoever it is that he is talking with in order to come over and talk with me: I would probably like to have sex with him 10 times in one night.
silverfish Posted September 26, 2009 Posted September 26, 2009 What is it about particular men that sets off your "bad boy" alarm given the above scenario. I'd say it's when they slightly overstep the boundaries of normal social etiquette. So, if you locked eyes, a bad boy would not look away and look back, they would keep staring, and enjoy your discomfort. If you were on a train they would stand a little bit too close maybe, or sit with their legs apart touching your leg and not move it away like most people would. They also have the 'bad boy walk' which is a strut that from the side would be led by the penis first (unless he had a really big nose). There is also the up & down look (tits, face, tits) that is what lots of men do, but they are open & blatant about it.
CaliGuy Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 In that case, I would stick with my original response: it's all in the attitude, baby. Of course, it can't be too sleazy, but all confidence. That's the thing, though. With jerks/bad boys, the confidence is an illusion. They aren't really confident, but deeply insecure. Just like "door mat" nice guys. The difference is how it's displayed: Door Mats: Insecure, needy, clingy. Bad Boys/Jerks: Exactly the opposite of door mats. The "I don't give a frak attitude" they display. This often "appears" to the untrained eye as confidence when really, it's a defense mechanism to cover up their insecurities. Yes, the bad boy/jerk will get women. They just won't keep them very long. And for most of them, that's their goal. To use women, not love/respect them. They have no clue how to love -- they don't even love themselves.
CaliGuy Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 There is also the up & down look (tits, face, tits) that is what lots of men do, but they are open & blatant about it. Yes, I do that often. Not ashamed that I look, but I try not to be an arse about it.
shadowplay Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 If by bad boy you just mean generic jerk (whom I wouldn't be interested in) then it's usually in the clothing, hair style, posture and facial expression. If you mean guy I'd want to screw solely based on observing him from across the room it's basically the same visual cues: 1) physical appearance (is he hot and my type?) 2) clothing style (does he dress in a way I find appealing that suggests confidence and that we'd have similar interests?) 3) do his gestures, posture and expressions exude confidence, intelligence and non-jerkiness?
shadowplay Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 I'm pretty sure you're asking this because you want to give off the "bad boy" vibe to attract women as a strategy to get laid because you buy into the women love bad boys theory because you haven't been getting any. 1. first of all, if you're trying to look like this, it won't work. you'll just look like a guy who's trying to look like a bad boy to get laid. 2. you have to be good looking. Period. 3. there comes a certain age where you can't pull off the "bad boy" attraction thing. You'll simply look like the aging guy trying a new strategy to pick up women. So... based on the 3 qualifications above...this won't work for you, sorry. BURN!!! :lmao:
always_searching Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 I'm pretty sure you're asking this because you want to give off the "bad boy" vibe to attract women as a strategy to get laid because you buy into the women love bad boys theory because you haven't been getting any. 1. first of all, if you're trying to look like this, it won't work. you'll just look like a guy who's trying to look like a bad boy to get laid. 2. you have to be good looking. Period. 3. there comes a certain age where you can't pull off the "bad boy" attraction thing. You'll simply look like the aging guy trying a new strategy to pick up women. So... based on the 3 qualifications above...this won't work for you, sorry. :lmao:
Hkizzle Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 I'm pretty sure you're asking this because you want to give off the "bad boy" vibe to attract women as a strategy to get laid because you buy into the women love bad boys theory because you haven't been getting any. 1. first of all, if you're trying to look like this, it won't work. you'll just look like a guy who's trying to look like a bad boy to get laid. 2. you have to be good looking. Period. 3. there comes a certain age where you can't pull off the "bad boy" attraction thing. You'll simply look like the aging guy trying a new strategy to pick up women. So... based on the 3 qualifications above...this won't work for you, sorry. harsh.......
monkey00 Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 Why can't a guy be confident/overly confident without being a bad-boy/jerk? It's always come to my attention that if a guy is too confident (especially with women) then they come off as a player. That's one thing that's always boggled my mind why one of those labels always comes up for that type of guy. I wonder if the media is to blame for that actually. Usually the suave guy tends to be the one that sleeps around..
Citizen Erased Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 Usually it goes off around the time they feel me up.
Hkizzle Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 Why can't a guy be confident/overly confident without being a bad-boy/jerk? It's always come to my attention that if a guy is too confident (especially with women) then they come off as a player. That's one thing that's always boggled my mind why one of those labels always comes up for that type of guy. I wonder if the media is to blame for that actually. Usually the suave guy tends to be the one that sleeps around.. Of course he can be confident and not a jerk, but it's rarer. Most confident guys abuse their power and sleep around.
monkey00 Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 Most confident guys abuse their power and sleep around. You do make a good point. Power corrupts. However, I know many confident guys who are in a happy relationship or happily married.
Hkizzle Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 You do make a good point. Power corrupts. However, I know many confident guys who are in a happy relationship or happily married. Of course I'm not going on hard stats. But in my opinion for every nice confident guy there's 3 confident guys sleeping around.
WineCountry Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 and interesting and confident fellow that you would like to have sex with 10 times in one night Ok see I must be weird or something. (Silence from the peanut gallery, please)..lol But I dont equate "bad boy" with some guy I'd like to bang all night line. To me, the term "bad boy" means some freaking tool who acts and sounds like his sh*t dont stink, and wants to try to tell you how big his schlong is and how he can slay 5 women in one night. The guy who acts like he is John Gotti or something. But, If I think back to the men who have made me want to rip off the Victoria Secrets and drop to my knees.... First, there was an air of QUIET confidence about them. They were not loud, or vulgar. They tended to be big men, not muscle bound dorks, but big chest/arms. They gave off the appearance of strength. They were guys who were not lugheads, and had brains. They were never crude or overly pushy (big point here). They were flirtatious enough to let you know they definitely wanted you, without hounding you for it. They werent obvious pigs who were so easy to get all horned out they run around with their wankers in their hand so obvious that they need to get laid. Eye contact was nice..you know..when no one was looking..you would lock eyes with them..and the look they gave you..it wasnt some dorky look like lifting their eyebrows at you. It was just the slow, steady gaze. Burning a hole inside you. Soft smile. Compliments that felt sincere and were specific to you. Calm, sexy voice. Yeah. 1
Angel1111 Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 The way he stands, his level of self-consciousness, the way he dresses, the way he looks around the room, if he seems overly attentive to his own looks (like looking at his reflection too often), smoking, drinking a lot, his level of friendliness (overly friendly or lack of friendliness), his topic of conversation, the number of women around him, the number of women he approaches, overly extroverted or overly introverted, doing drugs or appearing high, has the 'i don't give a damn' attitude, wearing sunglasses in a room, arrogance. 1
caramel c Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 Ok ladies say you're somewhere (bar, party, subway, etc...) and you see a guy. You don't talk to him but may make contact non-verbally. What is it about particular men that sets off your "bad boy" alarm given the above scenario. Is it the way he looks at you? His body language? His level of attractiveness? The way he's dressed? The way he stands or sits? Is he smoking? The group he's with? Or is it something more subjective like a feeling or vibe you get? Nothing yet. I'd have to talk to him for that alarm to go off.
WineCountry Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 I'm pretty sure you're asking this because you want to give off the "bad boy" vibe to attract women as a strategy to get laid because you buy into the women love bad boys theory because you haven't been getting any. 1. first of all, if you're trying to look like this, it won't work. you'll just look like a guy who's trying to look like a bad boy to get laid. 2. you have to be good looking. Period. 3. there comes a certain age where you can't pull off the "bad boy" attraction thing. You'll simply look like the aging guy trying a new strategy to pick up women. So... based on the 3 qualifications above...this won't work for you, sorry. Ok..I read this and almost peed myself. :laugh::laugh:
johan Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 Hey, Alpha. You always set off my bad boy alarm!
CaliGuy Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 But, If I think back to the men who have made me want to rip off the Victoria Secrets and drop to my knees.... First, there was an air of QUIET confidence about them. They were not loud, or vulgar. They tended to be big men, not muscle bound dorks, but big chest/arms. They gave off the appearance of strength. They were guys who were not lugheads, and had brains. They were never crude or overly pushy (big point here). They were flirtatious enough to let you know they definitely wanted you, without hounding you for it. They werent obvious pigs who were so easy to get all horned out they run around with their wankers in their hand so obvious that they need to get laid. Eye contact was nice..you know..when no one was looking..you would lock eyes with them..and the look they gave you..it wasnt some dorky look like lifting their eyebrows at you. It was just the slow, steady gaze. Burning a hole inside you. Soft smile. Compliments that felt sincere and were specific to you. Calm, sexy voice. Yeah. All men should read this as their bible on how to act like men around women! Great post, BTW, WC.
Author alphamale Posted September 27, 2009 Author Posted September 27, 2009 Hey, Alpha. You always set off my bad boy alarm! indeed, i drink too much and smoke too much and avoid commitment
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