firehawk_1 Posted September 26, 2009 Posted September 26, 2009 it is SO HARD to move on from my unfortunate ex (whom landed me in ALOT of trouble) and well i had a date tonight. so, we get on well via MSN and phone and tonight... nothing. dunno why and it got cut short. reason? "you are such a sweet guy but you arent my type" but she got a call (in other words, she texted her friend to ring her) saying her son was sick. my and my ex - we were so great together and got on sooooo well. so lovingly and everything, and now im back to this crap. i am never given a chance but my ex, wow - she was great until she did ALOT of crap for no reason. cant even be in a relationship before the months I may spend behind bars for something I didnt even do!
carhill Posted September 26, 2009 Posted September 26, 2009 For others, history: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t202334/ IMO, do not even consider dating until you are adjudicated (or charges dismissed) and have healed emotionally. From reading your other thread, this could take some months. If you really feel down, reach out for therapy (ask your lawyer first). Dating is a numbers game. I even started a dating investment account with all the money I saved from women rejecting me for dates. It grew handsomely over the years. One day at a time...
Author firehawk_1 Posted September 26, 2009 Author Posted September 26, 2009 thanks, yes i do agree with that. its just, im always alone and lonely really, until my ex.... yup, its going to take months but even then, still very tough. hm. i just want to move on and be with someone else, if that is possible.
carhill Posted September 26, 2009 Posted September 26, 2009 Sure, it's possible, one step at a time. Do you really think someone would want to date a person charged with sexual assault, even if blatantly false? Think about how that looks. It's that old adage about life not being fair. Use this negative experience to learn ways to be more selective in whom you give the privilege of your attention and affection. I'll bet you have already learned a lot.
Author firehawk_1 Posted September 26, 2009 Author Posted September 26, 2009 I know what you are saying and believe me ive thought about this and cried about it. no of course no one would want to be with someone who has been accused/charged with sexual assault which is another reason why i want to just i dunno, not be here and she did this because she knows that no one would want me, as before no one really took an interest in me apart from my ex. but still, i would like a partner and to move on. why shouldnt I have the right to do that? im always approachable and warm, friendly - people always say this even if its the first time I have seen them. Same thing with peoples past... you dont judge them unless it clearly shows repetitivness.
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