DreamChaser Posted September 26, 2009 Posted September 26, 2009 hey i am new to this. I've been with my guy for 5 and half years,3 of which he was with his wife and 2 separated. The last 2 years have been on and off with me talking him round to trying again. He said he needed his space which i didnt respect or honour until recently when i pulled back a lot. I unfortunately have access to his emails and found a very flirty one to a lady he says is his friend. Though not together we were still sleeping together, i believed us to be honest with each other with regards other people in our lives and believed he didnt want to get involved with this woman. I should also mention he was married for 24 years and is 22years my senior. He is my one true love and believed him when he said i was his too. Just via a telephone conversation he said he never wanted to see or hear from me again. Help have i totally blown it?
Forsaken Heart Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 You guys were having a happy life, both of you loved each other, and all of a sudden, he doesn't want to communicate with you? Are you sure you haven't done something that might have disappointed him or made him not like you anymore? Think hard and carefully how you behaved with him, and if by chance you did do something disatisfactory to him, be sure to aplogize to him. Or it may also be that your guy is thinking of dumping you, and get on with another girl. If that's the case, there's no reason to be sad. Just look for someone else who will be there for you, always.
Author DreamChaser Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 yes what i should menton is that though we weren't technically together we were still seeing each other and sleeping together. I thought we had am honest friendship with regards other people and seeing this email made me flip. I called him a liar and cheat for not being honest with me and he said he had not lied and had been honest. He says there is nothing about my personality he dislikes yet does not want anything to do with me. I'm starting nc now i'm on day 1 and want to say so much to him but feel its too early
Exit Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 You don't check someone's emails in an honest relationship. None of us know if he is gone for good but for now you should just try to move on.
Author DreamChaser Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 this is very true and obviously in agreement with you but i am always very suspicious of him. When we began he showered me with gifts. Flowers and kind words, obviously this has declined leaving me paranoid and insecure. Think i've lost him for good but maybe for best i need to know myself again
Author DreamChaser Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 to update he text me this evening for something irrelevant. I called him we had a nice chat and think i believe him when he says this woman is after him but he not interested in her. He is a charmer and says what women want to hear. I'm back to nc again and try proving to him and myself i am not insecure and not needy
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