jessicasilver Posted September 26, 2009 Posted September 26, 2009 second day of NO CONTACT and i feel like crap im hurting like hell but i know i will see better days this way !!! he broke up wit me the second time now its doesnt hurt as much as the first time i can handle my emotions a bit better now but nevertheless it still hurts like hell we decided to be friends after the second break up but i knew, we would either get back together or just stop contact completely because you can never be friends. i made most of the effort in the relationship and never got anything back from him (hence why im hurting more then he is) even when we were friends i made most the effort until i stopped and he would call me and text me all day, he suggested meeting up a couple of times but when i was about to met him he rang or texted me to tell me he cant make it....he needs some time to himself which was a bit out of order, why suggest meeting up if your just going to let me down several times!!! thats when i realisedi couldnt do it anymore, we cant be friends after every thing we went through for a year and a half, i told him this is the last time you will hear or see from me and he didnt believe me but im serious i really need to do this for myself as i am not benefiting at all from being his friend but instead feeding to his ego so like i said its the second day of no contacting, i dont feel any different about him, still madly in love with him and still miss him ! i wanted to just take out my fustration on here as i know many of you are going throught similar suitations as myself and i would love the support right now
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted September 26, 2009 Posted September 26, 2009 Just stick with it, the longer you go and the more effort you put into yourself and moving on, the more attractive you will be and the better you will feel. It takes time. Lots, and lots, and loads, and tons, and lots of time. But you know, the good thing about time... even though it's very slow... it never stops. So you know, eventually you will get there and will be better. Time can't be stopped and neither can you.
wondering_girl Posted September 26, 2009 Posted September 26, 2009 i'm sorry we're all going through this, i know everyone says it's time, i can't wait for the time that i don't think about him anymore it hurts, its VERY painful.
Darren09 Posted September 26, 2009 Posted September 26, 2009 Staying FRIENDS just does not work!!! i think been entirely honest with you i cant not think about my ex. longest i think i prob go is like 10mins??? Thats so bad. Am just taking each day as it comes i suggest you do the same. Longest i have gone NC is 11 days and now that i have seen her with somebody else with my own eyes i know its time to go the full stretch NO CONTACT FOREVER! Please use these forums as much as you can to tell people how you feel thats one thing i can recommend you do! it helps so much! i mean am a guy who pretty much doesnt share his feelings in the real world! on here i can let it all out and people actually listen
JaggedRoad Posted September 26, 2009 Posted September 26, 2009 Just don't contact him--ever. If he ever decides to contact you, then good for him, but don't try to reach out to him. Like you said, you can't stay just as friends after going through everything with him. I'll tell you a little bit about my relationship with my ex and you'll see why it just doesn't work. We had three break-ups (this is the third), and she wanted to stay as friends each time. Staying as friends only lasted about 1 or 2 weeks the first time before we got back together. The second time, it lasted about... 3-4 months before we got involved again. And I'll be honest with you, those 3 to 4 months were agonizing. That was 3 years ago, but I still feel the pain. For the current break-up, I tried to stay as friends with her about... 3 or 4 times and each time failed. It just can't happen after being with her for so long. Each time we talk, a little piece of me dies and I grow to hate her. It got to the point where I had to force myself to talk to her if she was available, and that only made things worse. You don't want that to happen to you, so I suggest you to break off all contact with him and don't look back.
Author jessicasilver Posted September 26, 2009 Author Posted September 26, 2009 thanks for the support, it helps to know theirs other people who are in similar suitations as me and im not alone i was so depressed today, every time i saw couples together it just reminded me of him !! i ended up putting myself down all day, telling myself i was never good enough for him thats why he dumped me the second time round... i know pathetic!! i soon came to my senses again and i realised how strong i have been to let him go fully and im not going to give up! its normal to feel like crap after a break up... yes i miss him and still love him (even though im sure his already forgotten about me) but life goes on !! im sure his thinking now that i will probably contact him, but his going to be shocked when he realises im serious i want to move on to better things
RachLIVE Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 Loving - "even though it's very slow... it never stops. So you know, eventually you will get there and will be better. Time can't be stopped and neither can you. " Ill have to refer to this in the furture thanks for helping cheer me up today & I dont even know you but I feel proud of you ><. Keep strong, in my opinion it gets harder before it gets easier. But yeh dont give up. I gave in & now am wishing I hadnt, so just trust yourself & everyone on here that your doing the right thing.
Author jessicasilver Posted September 27, 2009 Author Posted September 27, 2009 i seem to get stronger each day that goes past and i dont regret my decision on moving on!!!!.... however on the second day of no contact he rang my brother and asked him how he was, he never rings my brother only when we are not talking...he knows my brother will tell me and he assumes i would ring him because of that (i normally used to) however i didnt, i just took it as another way of him playing games and left it at that.... third day of no contact i felt much better, didnt think about him as much and out the blue HE RINGS ME....!!!!! i know i shouldnt have answered but i did .... arghhhh!!!! he wanted to how i was, i was acting very cold and gave him one word answers and he sounded very upset over the phone.... he said he wanted to stay in contact and i was silly for just ending it like that and wanted me to readd him on hotmail etc... and he wants to come to my birthday later which is soon (he said it means alot to him being there...really ? ) so far his made all the contact, i made my mind up im moving on with or without him so whether this contacting is permanent or not i really couldnt care less, his just boosting my ego a little but i deserve it after everything he put me through hehe
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