I unwantedly saw the ex 4 first time!! OMG it really is as bad as you can imagine

[Darren09]

I cant believe it i have literally tried to avoid this happening in everyway possible. (Driving different routes home, avoiding places we used to go etc..) And if you know my story then you will understand that i'm having a really hard time with the breakup. Just to recap i was in a 6 year relationship with the love of my life. She broke up with me and has been with some other guy since pretty much day 1

 

Anyway i was on the way to the supermarket and saw her in the next car with this ova guy. she looked directly at me with no reaction just the most emptyiest stare. It hit me so bad on many levels as she has been contacting me via text messages the past month. Not many but the odd i love you still and am not with anybody else. Seeing her my body just went into complete shock my heart was beating 3x its normal rate and then as i glanced over at who she was with, my heart sank so fast it nearly stopped beating altogether.

 

Now i know that she was lying all along about been alone and her feelings towards me. I feel so hurt and alone in this world and its all because of her. i want to move on but i dont know if i can be ok in this town anymore. everything i thought i had just isnt the same. The impact she had on my life was massive. She saw me alone and prob thinks i am pathetic and laughing at me rite now. i dont have the support from friends as i would like but my family knows am hurting.

 

My life was truley built around her and thats the biggest mistake i have ever made. Now this girl who i was truley happy with now haunts me. Reaching out to you guys is sometimes all i feel i have. 3months on now and not improving at all.

[ATR]

Chin up, you handled the situation very well by the sounds of it.

 

She is not worth your time.

If she is laughing at you for "being on your own"?? then it doesnt really matter, she is no longer part of your life.

 

Stop texting her, go complete NC and i promise you, if you go for the sole reason that is improving YOURSELF, you will get over her.

Never take an ex (dumper) back unless she begs at your door.

Never take an ex back if they have been with someone else after you split.

If you love yourself you will inderstand this.

 

Just remember that you will eventually get over her and you will be 10x the person you ever were.

[Exit]

I know how you feel. One day I went for a drive, I thought about purposely driving through her neighborhood, but I decided to be a better person than that, and just went a different direction. I stopped for gas, drove a few blocks, and then saw her turning left in front of me, talking on her phone. I was really upset that it happened especially when I made a choice to not go try to find her. Life screws with you sometimes...

[Taucher]

Sh*t mate,

 

Sorry about this. I live in fear of this happening to me. My ex (love of my life, amazing, incredible flawed beautiful woman) lives 2 minutes walk away from me now. My flatmate saw her. I cant leave the flat without looking up and down the road.

 

At least it has happened for you. Maybe just maybe once the pain has subsided it might be a bit easier to move on?

 

She is not laughing at you though, I'm sure of it. And she TOLD you she was with no one else. Yes, that might have been a lie. But why did she say this? And does her new man know that she texts you? And says she loves you? Probably not. He's the mug, not you.

 

Hard as it is, remember this: nothing has changed. You split up 3 months ago (no time at all after a 6 year relationship) and everything else is just, well, nothing. The split is the big deal. Nothing's changed.

 

T

[Darren09]

Yeah my perants saw them the same day aswel....... it does hurt n i know i shoudlnt but i text her one last time basically saying..... Now lie to me!! dont bother wasting your time texting me again because i really dont want you in my life!!..... i dont know why i was compelled to say stupid things am sure just complete silence would of done it. Am really not contacting her no more and as for this ova guy if hes so perfect PFFFFFFTTT! hes welcome to her because what you just said taucher.... hes the mug??? am pretty dam sure he doesnt know that she was texting me?

 

The risk of me bumping into her is so high that i feel stupid cause am always going to be on my own. But like my dad said to me "shes not the girl you thought she was" shes not at all i fell in love with someone really imature and disloyal in the end.

[Odyssey]

It well and truly sucks don't it. the lies. At least now you know the truth that she is with someone. Now you can focus on yourself, instead of wasting all your energy on her.

 

Well at least you didn't panic like i did.

[Darren09]

It well and truly sucks don't it. the lies. At least now you know the truth that she is with someone. Now you can focus on yourself, instead of wasting all your energy on her.

 

Well at least you didn't panic like i did.

 

No i felt that small and pathetic i didnt want to make it any worse i guess. i just wanted to get as far away from them as possible. i fink if they would of approached me in anway i would of turned away and legged it lol there is no way i would ever talk to an ex after all the lies.

 

Just curious how did you panic?

[hoping2heal]

Yeah my perants saw them the same day aswel....... it does hurt n i know i shoudlnt but i text her one last time basically saying..... Now lie to me!! dont bother wasting your time texting me again because i really dont want you in my life!!..... i dont know why i was compelled to say stupid things am sure just complete silence would of done it. Am really not contacting her no more and as for this ova guy if hes so perfect PFFFFFFTTT! hes welcome to her because what you just said taucher.... hes the mug??? am pretty dam sure he doesnt know that she was texting me?

 

The risk of me bumping into her is so high that i feel stupid cause am always going to be on my own. But like my dad said to me "shes not the girl you thought she was" shes not at all i fell in love with someone really imature and disloyal in the end.

 

That's right, as for her laughing at you? If anything, she probably feels sheepish having sent you those text messages and been caught RED HANDED as an open faced liar. She probably was more worried about that then laughing at you because you didn't have someone with you.

 

I agree with your dad, she wasn't who you thought she was. It almost sounds like she broke up with you for another man?

[Odyssey]

Just curious how did you panic?

I'll keep this as brief as possible, since it's your thread...

 

My ex literally bumped into me, as i was on my way through town. She was alone & looked stunning. I suddenly felt pissed off (weird huh?), missed her sooo damn much, and I could feel myself tearing up. Inside I was a twisted mess - panicking . Outside I was cool as ice (I was fooling no one).

 

I walked (why didn't i run?). She followed. I couldn't even look at her in the eyes anymore. We began talking. What was that she said? She is single again! By that time i made it to my car and sped off (think i'd knocked a bunch of trolleys over, but i'm convincing myself i'd imagined it). I was shaking. She kept ringing my phone like crazy. I panicked & logged on LS. Reality kicked in! She's not worth it.

 

Thanks Caliguy and Lyssa for the reality check. I was that close to taking her immature sorry ass back (for the wrong reasons).

[Username88]

All of us go through this. All of us dread seeing the ex and when we do our hearts beat just as yours did.

 

She is moving on as well and in 3 months you aren't going to be your normal old self again.

 

In my opinion, things only get worse before they ever get better. I'm 21 now and my first real break up was at 17. The pain was there for 2 years and the only reason why I got over it is because I fell in love with someone else...

 

Just be patient with life and know you will get through this!