Hkizzle Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Ok so I've been going through player detox. I've seriously cut down on the partying and clubbing and just want to meet a girl I actually like. Wtf, when I was a jerk I had girls literally hit on me. I went clubbing with 6 people tonight and one of the girls I really like and she just wasn't interested and instead when everyone spread out her and another girl go and spend the entire night with some guys I know are players. Meanwhile as I was going wtf, the only gay guy in our group dances with loads of girls. So I start testing this all out. I go hit on girls like I usually do and get responses. I walk straight up to two girls say I'm 100% gay and make them laugh and get them to dance with me. Then I act like a nice guy and crash and burn 100% of the time. WOMEN ARE NOT ATTRACTED TO NICE GUYS! Why the hell are all my female friends asking me to intro nice guys to them?
donnamaybe Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Women want nice guys. Girls want players.
espec10001 Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Ok so I've been going through player detox. I've seriously cut down on the partying and clubbing and just want to meet a girl I actually like. Wtf, when I was a jerk I had girls literally hit on me. I went clubbing with 6 people tonight and one of the girls I really like and she just wasn't interested and instead when everyone spread out her and another girl go and spend the entire night with some guys I know are players. Meanwhile as I was going wtf, the only gay guy in our group dances with loads of girls. So I start testing this all out. I go hit on girls like I usually do and get responses. I walk straight up to two girls say I'm 100% gay and make them laugh and get them to dance with me. Then I act like a nice guy and crash and burn 100% of the time. WOMEN ARE NOT ATTRACTED TO NICE GUYS! Why the hell are all my female friends asking me to intro nice guys to them? Umm it sounds like you are confused as to who you are? You switch between gay/bad boy/nice guy, which one are you?
samspade Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Women want what they can't have, so it follows that they will find gay men at least relatively attractive by virtue of their near-total lack of sexual interest. When a woman is with a gay man, she is thinking, "how can he have a penis but not want to get into my pants?" Of course, some women even go so far as to try and seduce gay men - this gives them great validation of their belief that they can conquer any man. Gay men, despite their (sometimes) effeminate tendencies, have one thing in common with straight male jerks: They will say what they want around a female, even if it means offending her. I've seen countless gay men playfully cut down a woman on her wardrobe, makeup, even her weight. Do the women in question take umbrage and walk away? Hell, no. They eat it up and stay for more. I'd say a guy with great game (read: "jerk"), if he knows what he's doing, can get away with maybe 80-90% of what a flippant gay man does - the only difference being a woman knows that the player wants her 'gina. A nice guy, by contrast, will self-censor, be overly polite, over-compliment, buy gifts, worry about offending, not know how to run game, place her on a pedestal, ask her permission for a kiss, and - if he gets that far - perform sex in a timid and unsatisfying way. Boring. Nevertheless, a woman will always tell you she's looking for a "nice guy." Don't listen to her. She's just saying that to justify her erstwhile sex-romps with players who pump-and-dump her. A female would rather share part of a real man than have a total nice guy all to herself. SS PS: Females on the board will disagree, but as I've said before, watch what women DO. Don't listen to what they say.
dnm Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 I don't know a single woman who wants a bad boy for a LTR.
donnamaybe Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 I don't know a single woman who wants a bad boy for a LTR. No kidding. Maybe airheads. I have a nice guy and I plan to keep him.
Thaddeus Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 ...watch what women DO.Quoted for truth. I can't even begin to tell you the "nice guys" I know of - and they truly are good men - that get treated like dirt or ignored entirely by women, the very same women that are attracted to the proverbial bad boys like iron filings to a magnet. But we've been over this a million times, and the same conclusions are reached each and every time: There's a wide and burgeoning gulf between what many women say they want and what they actually do want. Now watch the accusations of misogyny fly.
alphamale Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Why the hell are all my female friends asking me to intro nice guys to them? their usage of the word "nice" means either rich or good looking (or both) rich = nice good looking = nice rich & good looking = really nice
GorillaTheater Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 I don't think I've ever struggled much with this; I seem to have been born with equal measures of empathy, humor, and malice. I'm a blessed man.
Trialbyfire Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Another perception of events: Confident guys come first. Gay men are non-threatening aka one of the girls. Guys with no confidence come last.
eiithan Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Zero interest in bad boy type as well. Cannot rationalise what they are good for. When a woman realises the importance of emotional availability and other crucial qualities in her partner, and that reforming a bad boy is a pure fantasy, bad boys stand no chance in my opinion.
donnamaybe Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Women want nice guys. Girls want players. It's so FUNNY to watch the female bashers pat each other on the back and encourage their tripe while they conveniently ignore posts by a woman who HAS a nice guy.
carhill Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Truth sucks Further, I believe such women (iron filings to the magnet) are doing me a favor because at least I can see who they truly are by their actions. Thanks!
donnamaybe Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Guys with no confidence come last. AKA guys who blame women for their problems.
motive2002 Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Nice guys are manipulative, needy, phony and weak. When you examine what a "nice guy" is you'll find that they aren't that nice at all. The so-called "jerks" know what they want and are comfortable in their own skin. Nothing wrong with that.
donnamaybe Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Nice guys are manipulative, needy, phony and weak. When you examine what a "nice guy" is you'll find that they aren't that nice at all. The so-called "jerks" know what they want and are comfortable in their own skin. Nothing wrong with that. You are describing a jerk masquerading as a nice guy. Some of us can tell the difference. By your definition, there IS no such thing as a nice guy.
Thaddeus Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Now watch the accusations of misogyny fly. See what I mean? It's so FUNNY to watch the female bashers pat each other on the back and encourage their tripe while they conveniently ignore posts by a woman who HAS a nice guy. AKA guys who blame women for their problems. Didn't take long, did it?
donnamaybe Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 And, once again, no one has addressed the fact that I, a woman, HAVE a nice guy. Nope. Sure didn't take long to figure y'all out - as per usual.
Author Hkizzle Posted September 25, 2009 Author Posted September 25, 2009 PS: Females on the board will disagree, but as I've said before, watch what women DO. Don't listen to what they say. Haha, so many responses and so fast. Interesting topic hey? It is an interesting topic though. Because I kid you not, because I speak to all my single female friends about nice guys/ jerks etc, I have A LOT asking me to introduce nice guys to them. But they are not friggin interested in nice, they are interested in CONFIDENT. Please friggin stop lying to yourself and admit at least that fact, because if women were NATURALLY attracted to nice they wouldn't fall for jerks, but they're not, they want confident. Why the hell doesn't a single female friend ask me to introduce confident guys to them huh? Alcohol still in my blood, please don't flame me. I know it's 3pm EST, but it's 3am here in Hong Kong.
donnamaybe Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 And, once again, no one has addressed the fact that I, a woman, HAVE a nice guy. Nope. Sure didn't take long to figure y'all out - as per usual. And still no response. Ha ha ha haaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SO f'ing predictable! Perhaps it's mere boredom that keeps them away.
gered Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 see i some how am a nice guy and have figured out how to find the girls that want me i get hit on all the time. the problem your having is not yourself but the girls and the girls you meeting. your going out and getting drunk and hopping your going to find a girl that will be interested in you as a person. good luck. in college girls just at the dc would sit next to me and hit on me. the best way to meet girls is to experiment about your self and figure out what you like to do. the guys who just lift all day and go to parties are only going to find the girls who dont like to do anything but find guys that just dont do much other then **** for one night typically and the others not like that are just looking for good time to be drunk but hookup with no one. find your self a sport or a job or a class or something and meet girls like that. then ask them out. you can find a one night stand drunk but to find the right one you have to find them while your sober.
espec10001 Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Being bad is fun! Bad boys just wanna have fun. Girls just wanna have fun. What is the confusion about? Bad boys are crazy, though they are not relationship material, they sure as heck aren't boring. I'd rather be known as crazy and unpredictable than boring any day. Bad boys like to test the 'waters', see what they can get away with. They like to disrupt 'order'. It shouldn't be any wonder why a female would find a bad boy exciting. Bad boys got a vision, and a plan. The very fact that the female will never be #1 to them or that the female will have to really put effort into making herself #1 to him will always allure females. Females want to be the center of the guys world, they want to be treated like a prize and taken care of, that's nature. Bad boys got the fire, they got the fury, that's what they want, the fiery passion. Girls know it's always more fun to have a partner in crime and get away with it. Never have I met a girl who isn't into having fun, thats what they're all about. And thats why I lubbbbbb dem
Trialbyfire Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Then I act like a nice guy and crash and burn 100% of the time.Out of curiosity, how did you portray a "nice" guy?
donnamaybe Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 gered, you'll be ignored as well because you don't fit in with the back-slappin' good ol' boys on this thread.
alphamale Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Confident guys come first. Gay men are non-threatening aka one of the girls. Guys with no confidence come last. confindent men are usually the "bad boys"....non confident men are usually the "nice guys" the key is to find one who is in between, and they are rare indeed
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