when does the pain go away? i cant stop. doing the wrong things!

[caseymw25]

what a fing prick. he goes and finally actually says i love you the other night! and then goes to her house when he was supposed to come see me the next night! omfg!! im sooo pissed now, had a conversation last night with him, he plans on moving out, knows i wont see him as much if at all. cause it will be a little far of a drive. he will be closer to her. he doesnt care, i called him and ask him repeatedly why why why?! he said just leave him alone about it talking about why wont you just leave her alone. well fine i am. seems like he calls just when he wants something "most" of the time. i have our son work full time and all he wants to do is play, well i have to be at his house wed. night for the the wedding ill be with him for 4 days. staying in the same hotel room and everything. after this wedding he can do what the hell he wants. he doesnt have those in love feelings anymore. so screw that. yall are right, after a few days off of here i have finally discovered being with him stressed me out, being not with him has stressed me out. he is just a big ball of stress. so F IT! he said he would only get back into a relationship with me, well we will see how that goes if i just walk away. NOT BE A DOORMAT. how cruel is it to string someone who has your child along that you know they love you so deeply then go and screw another woman, and continue to talk to her?! i will never understand men. i thought i understood him. HAHA!

[caseymw25]

ecm- your right 6 years he was a baby i always always picked him up, except for right before the end of the relationship when i went haywire i was a bitch. thats when he was saying he was obessed with me and blah blah blah so your right, he says i hurt him because of breaking up with him and then coming back then kicking him out, back to his parents. i begged him to come back but that was after another girl showed interest in him and he broke up with me to F with her, im just afraid still that if i back off now he wont care cause hes now a damaged person when it comes to relationships?. I think a part of it is i can be fun sometimes but i have always had this motherly thing with him like nagging that he hates, like last nights convo bugging him about her and moving. he wants his own life and me not in it. if i back off will he move closer to me? i told him yesterday the thought of him being with another woman sickens me, i asked him wouldnt it be the same way with you and and looked guilty and said yes. what does he expect from me? i dont want another woman around my child!

[PinkToes]

if i back off will he move closer to me?

 

WTF??? You give a thousand reasons why he's a loser and you deserve better and then you go back down this road? How many more posts saying exactly the same thing is it gonna take before you stop twisting yourself into a pretzel to get him back? I don't get it. I wish I could help, but I'm starting to feel like I'm just banging my head against the wall.

 

One last piece of advice, though: If you're still having sex with this guy, please please please use at least a billion condoms, don't slip up in a moment of weakness, and don't for one minute think that another baby will convince him that you belong together. I know you get that in your head, but you also know in your head that he's bad news, and that doesn't seem to be enough to keep you away from him. So please be very careful.