is morning or night worse?

[wondering_girl]

woke up this morning and the effect of break-up still hurts, i even have chest pains from it...... i hate that when i wake up i thought it was a nightmare but it's the truth?

 

mornings are the worse for me, what about you guys?

[northstar1]

woke up this morning and the effect of break-up still hurts, i even have chest pains from it...... i hate that when i wake up i thought it was a nightmare but it's the truth?

 

mornings are the worse for me, what about you guys?

 

mornings were worse, because i'd usually have dreams about her, then wake up and reality would hit me again. nights weren't too bad because i'd keep myself occupied with friends, or tv etc.

 

but, i can attest, it does get better

[Taucher]

For me, nights were the worst at the beginning, just after she left me. I was left alone in the flat I shared with my ex, sleeping in our bed with the whole, sleepless night stretched out ahead of me. When I woke up in the morning I knew I could get up and go out and see people and stuff.

 

Now, I live with friends which has helped a lot. Sometimes the mornings are bad if I have dreamt about her. But overall I would say the nights have been worse.

 

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[Northwesthunny]

For me its defo the morning - i have a dream about him, wake up and realise im still on my own! Thats 3 month down the line and it seems to be getting harder rathar than easier

[Maoky]

I'd say mornings. I feel so numb, and then the emotions hit HARD.

 

At night I can keep my mind occupied on other things.

[DustySaltus]

mornings were worse, because i'd usually have dreams about her, then wake up and reality would hit me again. nights weren't too bad because i'd keep myself occupied with friends, or tv etc.

 

but, i can attest, it does get better

 

+1 mornings suck, but the extra room on the bed has its benefits sometimes (she hogged that too) .

[Ilovecake]

Mornings for sure. It's getting better but it's still a bad time of the day for me.

 

I don't have to be up for work until 7:30 am but for about 6 months I was waking up around 4 or 5am and I would automatically start having really bad panic attacks and not being able to go back to sleep. Since then I found out that's a very common sign of depression. I've since started taking antidepressants and tranquilizers. As I’ve been slowly dealing better with the break up the mornings got a little easier but I still feel anxious so I have to take a tranquilizer before leaving for work. For some reason weekend mornings didn't bothered me as much and I slept in a lot later, maybe because I was aware of the fact that I didn’t have to deal with the real world if I wasn’t feeling up to it.

[Ilovecake]

Oh yeah and as a few people mentioned the dreams were the pits. He's in them less and less these days and if I do dream about him it's no longer that we are together, now he's either in the background of something negative is happening to him.

[JaggedRoad]

It was mornings at first, but now it's mostly the afternoon and night. I still get those horrible 5'oclock wake ups, but they're not as bad anymore.

[JL911]

I remember the 1st weeks where I would wake up and just wish I would have died in my sleep...

 

Sleep never has come easy to me, but after this it got almost impossible....Stress and depression mixed with constant thoughts of them just ruin your life for about a month.

 

I can honestly say it gets easier. I reached a breaking point where the only way I would sleep was with alcohol being a HUGE factor...It was sleep, but it wasnt real sleep. I hit rock bottom getting thrown out of 2 bars due to causing problems and went in for therapy which has really helped me.

 

I still wake up a lot. But I am starting to sleep again...

[gavinus]

for me the mornings, when I dont have to get up straight away, I lie and bed and think of her....and sometimes in the night I wake up after dreaming of her..I think its the pain that wakes me up, 2 months NC, feeling low, staying strong

[fiser360]

The morning's are always worse. It's like you either dream about them or they are the first thought in your head. I also think that my "defenses" are down in the morning when I first open my eyes..my brain isn't yet ready with the "shields" I have put up to try and prevent the pain. This is 3 months after the break up, and I still feel the pain every single morning. And she is the last thing I think about before I go to sleep...

[GrayClouds]

For me its the night, in the morning I have things to do which help with the over thinking.

[mimiminx]

Mornings have been the worst for me, because I wake up and the first thing I think about is him not being there. Going to sleep is actually better because I don't have to face the reality! Also, I notice sometimes late afternoons are hard, probably because we always had dinner together and that time of the evening is especially lonely without him. I think about him all the time though, but those times are hardest for me.

[jaybird1043]

Nights, especially Sunday nights. That was the night we laid in bed watching tv and movies all night. Thank god we did not live together, I think I would need medication! LOL... In honesty though, I miss her at times and she pops up in my head and I wonder where and what she is doing, but somedays I go all day w/o thinking about her, I still miss her but I she was not what i wanted and I think i am mostly to blame for it. I was doing things looking for her hoping to buy this love that i wanted from her. I just got frustrated and so did she.

[Beeotch]

Mornings were worst for me...

 

It almost always felt like the beginning of the whole break-up all over again. I would wake up and think of the day ahead and feel depressed as before when we were together I would be happy because I would usually wake up to a nice text msg from him, I got a call or text while he was on his lunch break and usually we would make plans to hang out after work and school...usually there would be a pep in my step going throughout the day as I had something to look forward to: seeing him later, spending the night later, talking later etc.

 

Sooo yes waking up and knowing that wouldn't happen made me feel empty and depressed and like the day would be long. Usually though once I was out and about it would be fine.

 

It has been 6 months plus and I feel nowhere like that. But I do have morning depression a little except not that badly. I tend to think of our relationship more in the mornings. Esp as I would often spend the night at his place and he would drop me off in the mornings before he went to work so that time of the morning is associated with the time we spent together. I get over it quickly though now. At nights it is not that bad....I don't feel depressed at all at nights even when I think of him. It is just the morning time.

[t0ri]

In the first few months, they were equally as bad. Mornings, awful, because I'd wake up to a slap of reality - that he wasn't beside me anymore, no more good morning texts, etc. Nights, terrible, wondering what he's doing, if he misses me, going to sleep alone, etc.

 

If I have a dream about him, it ruins my waking moments, but nowadays the sadness and whatnot in the morning fades quickly because I have things to get done (thank goodness). Nights are worse for me now. That's when I feel the loneliest.

 

Lately, though, the intense dreams I've had of him have made me feel sad for the majority of the day because I've been thinking about him less, then he's stuck in my head after seeing him in my dreams. It's like my subconscious isn't letting me forget him. My memory of him in my dreams seems to be far better than my memory of him when I'm awake. Strange.

[angelface78]

Morning are the worst for me hands down. At the beginning of the breakup i would wake up with panick attacks...my heart beating like crazy. I would sometimes wake up at 4 or 5 in the morning with horrible pain. Then dreams of him were bad cause i would wake up and feel this aching in my chest. Now 3 months of NC later..its gotten better but the mornings are still the worst. I wake up and the feeling that we are not together sinks in. It hurts like hell sometimes. Nights are not that bad cause i know the day is over and i am getting relief from my thoughts by going to sleep. Mornings are horrible its like...here we go again..another day that i have to survive!! good to know i am not the only one that feels this way.

[dianna]

Mornings, gosh I hated ( and I still hate mornings ) . I remember a month ago everyday was the same....when I opened my eyes it was like a slam in the head BANG!!!!!! you are single, he left you, no phone calls,get over it, start crying, its your fault etc etc etc .Awful...awful times..

[Cora]

Mornings were terrible for me. At least while I was sleeping I felt nothing. As soon as I woke, all the pain saturated every inch of my body again. I just remember waking up to the sun shining through my window and birds singing outside....everything seemed so happy and full of life! The complete opposite of what I felt. I did not want to be alive because I no longer wanted to feel the pain. The pain of knowing that he truly is gone forever. That part right there just could not sink in with me. I did not want to accept it.

[wondering_girl]

hey girls, i'm sorry we're all going through this, i just woke up and angel, i go through those panic attacks too and i have chest pains right now...i'm still having a hard time to accept it, that he's gone forever, he's never gonna call, and that he LEFT me out in the cold, i need to get rid of my thoughts on the weekend thinking today is the day, then the day ends and nothing - i keep telling myself, but he needs space, seriously if he wanted to be with me he'd be here now...

 

i woke up this morning turned around and he wasn't there hugging me, he's GONE, he LEFT, without even saying anything.

[Darren09]

Mornings without a doubt!! Start of a new day without the person you love

 

 

Evenings not as bad as the most of the hurt and pain has been experienced in the morning!

[Username88]

The feeling of heartache hits hard worse in the morning because your dreams aren't your reality and your safe from the pain when your sleeping. It's also worse when you dream of them and wake up...Pain sucks! hell yeah! : -(

[quarterlifecrisis]

Middle of the night and morning is definitely the worse for me. Like others mentioned, when you are unconscious your logic and shields are down.

 

All you think about is how much you miss her and why she won't come back. It's the time when I am most desperate and dream about her non-stop. Upon awaking from a dream, it's almost impossible to fall asleep again. This of course, ruins your next day.

 

It usually takes me until early to late afternoon before I can be sensible again and look forward to the future.

[Msbrokenheart]

i know feel nights r the worse...just lie in the bed and its him that i think about..him and the new girl. Hate it so much, cos all i want to do is call him and see him, its been a month now. Hopefully this will fade away soon