smookie Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 I am wondering something... I have been on here almost all day reading post all over the place. Why would my ex boyfriend say that it is over and do not try to get back together with him because it will never happen and to move on just like he did and he is happy and content.. However durning all contact times he is very nice, via text via phone or email. He even sends me video's of him watching a live hockey game, later on that say night he sent me a video with a little girl playing (his friend is married) Texts me in the morning "wake up" Correct me if I am wrong but would he not just completely ignor me if he really wanted me to move on? Why is he being so nice? This guys knows the way that I am, we were together for 7.5 years. To me this is very confussing... I need to know if this is a game, if this is how people are when they are over someone,
rp123 Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 I am wondering something... I have been on here almost all day reading post all over the place. Why would my ex boyfriend say that it is over and do not try to get back together with him because it will never happen and to move on just like he did and he is happy and content.. However durning all contact times he is very nice, via text via phone or email. He even sends me video's of him watching a live hockey game, later on that say night he sent me a video with a little girl playing (his friend is married) Texts me in the morning "wake up" Correct me if I am wrong but would he not just completely ignor me if he really wanted me to move on? Why is he being so nice? This guys knows the way that I am, we were together for 7.5 years. To me this is very confussing... I need to know if this is a game, if this is how people are when they are over someone, Perhaps time to deliver a dose of NC, and see if this smokes out his true feelings.....
Taucher Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 This sounds pretty typical of how a lot of people are after they have dumped someone. He doesn't want you to hate him, he does not want to feel guilty and he wants to keep his options open. He wants a safety net to allow him to leave you and if you are contacting him, you are giving him that safety net. Also, 7 and a half years is a long time for a relationship. I agree with rp123. Go NC and then see what happens. Don't make it easy for him. Make it easy for you. Take care T
smookie Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Even though I am the one that ended tihs?
mimiminx Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 well there's your answer. You ended it. so, he's trying to maintain contact with you hoping you might change your mind. he doesn't want you to forget about him. He's the one that said there's no chance, etc. but he really isn't following through with that by his contacting you. That was probably a knee-jerk reaction if he said that. I don't know your situation, but that's what I think. If you dumped him, just don't respond if you are secure in your decision to break up. Ignore his attempts and he might just give up. ???
smookie Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 I am just confussed why when he says dont even try not going to work,he is happy and content and he is moving on (not in another relationship he works in camps) why he is so darn nice, he texts and calls... I just do not get that part. I am ok with the break up as we were unhappy but I do miss him and now I am going through a hard time with my daughters medical issues, He does not know what is happening medically. All the other ex's just ended it and the contact was never desired by any of us unless with our kids. (this child is not his)..Sorry if it seems jumbled My mind is scattered... Many trips to the hospital in the past 3 days, going there again in a few minutes.
boogieboy Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Well sometimes you dont want to break contact with someone you were used to for 7 years. SO him contacting you might be his way of weaning you off his mind. Thats why hes so nice. He misses you a lil.
NSW768 Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 he also might be faking it. a lot of threads on here say if u do make contact and are the dumpee act super happy. so im not saying he's reading LS but if he was really upset with the breakup he may be trying to seem happy and keep you in his life.
smookie Posted September 26, 2009 Posted September 26, 2009 No I do not believe that he knows about this site...lol he knows nothing about computers... Turning one on even confusses him... I know he cares still because he found out whats wrong with my daughter and he is always calling and trying to talk to me about this, One thing that he knows I love about him.He always trys to make me laugh when she is going through medical issues. Today he said if she can not walk get her a little red wagon and pull her to the appointments... (she is 18 years old) it is really funny. He is calling her tonight to talk to her tonight on the office phone. I just do not get it, It is over get over me and move on, But yet he is so nice still... I have no clue. I must admit that I really love everyones insite to all of these things happening to all of us on LS. Thanks guys Maybe he is really keeping me on the back burner in case he wants back in...Thats my guess
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