aerogurl87 Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Ok so I've posted a few threads here about the guy I'm now seeing. At first it wasn't clear if we were even dating (it felt like it, but neither one of us really acknowledged it till this random stranger asked me if he was my boyfriend). Anyway, things are becoming more and more confusing between us (to me at least). Today we went to the mall and he held my hand the whole time we were walking around, he took me out to lunch, and he bought me some clothes. Then he took me to the store to get me to pick out which Ipod I wanted for my birthday and he gave me a kiss while we were in the store. Basically what I guess I'm trying to say is, I feel like we're a couple. I mean I feel like he's my boyfriend already, not just a guy I'm dating. He texts me every morning when I wake up and talks to me whenever he gets off work or before I go to work. He texts me random little sweet messages throughout the day, basically the kind of stuff a boyfriend (I think) would do. We still haven't even slept together and he knows that I'm not budging on that issue till I'm in a committed and exclusive relationship. So now I'm confused, because I feel like we're in a relationship although we're just "dating". He still hasn't mentioned that he wants us to be exclusive or anything like that, but his actions are screaming it in my opinion. So any advice? Do you think I should keep waiting things out or should I just bring it up or at the least allude to it in one of our conversations the next time we're together?
New Again Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Ah love Aerogurl I love that you're so excited about this guy! But (yes, there's a but!!) you got a lot of good advice in your last (two?) thread(s) about this!! IME this all is a pretty natural step in the dating process. Sounds like things are on track, so just enjoy it and give him some time!
Rylle Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 There is nothing confusing about his actions. He's treating you great. He'll ask you when he's ready. In the meantime, obviously he likes you. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t202886/ Just to refer you back to your last thread about this...you got some good advice. If you're really this impatient about it, just bring it up with him. Why are you so concerned with getting the title though? It sounds like he's doing everything right, treating you great, behaving like a respectful guy that likes you, so why the rush? I'm sure he'll get around to it when he's ready.
Author aerogurl87 Posted September 25, 2009 Author Posted September 25, 2009 There is nothing confusing about his actions. He's treating you great. He'll ask you when he's ready. In the meantime, obviously he likes you. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t202886/ Just to refer you back to your last thread about this...you got some good advice. If you're really this impatient about it, just bring it up with him. Why are you so concerned with getting the title though? It sounds like he's doing everything right, treating you great, behaving like a respectful guy that likes you, so why the rush? I'm sure he'll get around to it when he's ready. It's not that I'm in a rush to get the title, but it is a bit confusing when we're out together and people either refer to him as my boyfriend or ask if I'm his girlfriend. I guess it's just that he's such an awesome guy that I want to call him my boyfriend. But I will try to calm down and let things go one day at a time.
Author aerogurl87 Posted September 25, 2009 Author Posted September 25, 2009 Ah love Aerogurl I love that you're so excited about this guy! Yep New Again, I am really excited about him! I think it's a mixture of the fact that my ex was such a jerk and he's the exact opposite and the fact that we have such great chemistry together. But I'm going to take everyone's advice and try to be patient, although it's about to kill me lol.
Kamille Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 It's not that I'm in a rush to get the title, but it is a bit confusing when we're out together and people either refer to him as my boyfriend or ask if I'm his girlfriend. I guess it's just that he's such an awesome guy that I want to call him my boyfriend. But I will try to calm down and let things go one day at a time. Well? What does he answer when he's confronted to this situation?
Author aerogurl87 Posted September 25, 2009 Author Posted September 25, 2009 Well? What does he answer when he's confronted to this situation? Well that's a good question, lol. He usually doesn't really say anything, or laughs it off. Hence more confusion.
Rylle Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 "Your power is lost the minute you start asking, 'Where do I stand?' Because what you've just told him is that the terms of the relationship are now his to dictate."
Author aerogurl87 Posted September 26, 2009 Author Posted September 26, 2009 Tonight it happened! He told me he wanted to be in a relationship with me (although apparently in his head we already were). I told him that although I felt like we were exclusive, I needed to hear him say it and he did. :bunny: Then to make things even better, he told me that he thought he was starting to fall in love with me. I think I may the happiest person alive on the Earth at this moment. :D:D
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