Exit Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 I was having a bad day today, thinking about her a lot again, torturing myself with thoughts of her with her new BF. I turned around to face my TV, and there's some "Feed the children" thing on TV right now showing people dying and starving in third world countries. Yes my situation still hurts but damn... how different my life could be, how awful it could be, I can't allow myself to sit here and complain. Hell, I've been getting into my weight lifting a lot lately and I was reading about the crazy amount of calories I should really be consuming and it was stressing me out trying to figure out what to eat. I'm trying to shove 3000 calories down my throat to make my body look better and these people are walking around with their rib cages coming through their skin. Attention me: STFU!! My life is nothing to complain about
hopefulInFuture Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Take a look from yet another perspective... I have not read your story and I don't know what happened between you so pardon me if I am not right. Things were not great for the two of you, she could have worked it out with you, yet she chose to leave you just like we decide to ignore the problem and leave people up to their destiny in Africa and in many other places. She did not care enough for you. You love her? Wonderful, this means that you're a very sensitive and giving person. If after so many months you're still so hung on her this means that you gave her all of your heart. You cancelled yourself pretty much. Women and girls don't like men who need us to be happier. We like men who are happy themselves and strong and who can teach us a lot. I am not trying to be negative here. What I am trying to say is that if you really want to get her back or get into a wonderful new relationship you need to first make sure that you are strong and you don't need anyone else to be happy. I am a very sensitive person like you. In the past I used to dwell a lot about everything that took place between myself and other people. But you can still learn to be happy alone and worry less about the bad treatments others reserve you. So she left you... Forgive her and say that whatever she's doing or she's gonna do, you wish her all the best in her life. Forgive yourself if you've messed up. We all mess up once in a while in our lives and you need a person besides you who knows how to forgive and make the best out of a relationship. Concentrate on your well-being, know that you are and will always be your own best friend and whatever happens you accept your faults and can work on improving youself. Don't ever let yourself down.
Maxwell Sage Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Damn, Hopeful... What you said really applied to me. My ex started moving on around the time I really started going downhill, only to find an older guy who was doing really well for himself and ended up teaching her a lot about life. Now I just feel like a miserable, lonely loser. Yesterday I was feeling good for the majority of the day... Today I'm feeling like death... This is trash... I feel so trapped when my brain chemistry is what's determining how I feel as opposed to my sense of logic. What Exit said is true, I have no hard core reason to complain. I could easily say that by comparison to a starving African, my life is a dream come true. I could also say that by comparison to a good looking wealthy person my age, my life is miserable. I'm not starving, nor do I suffer from any diseases (that I'm aware of). However, I'm turning 22 two Mondays from now and I've been stealing from Safeway since February in order to survive. Plus, the only person I've ever loved left me for someone new when I needed them the most. In addition to this, I have a significant serotonin deficiency and low self esteem. Am I supposed to take all this, say "At least I'm not starving in Africa." and feel happy? I just feel lost and pessimistic...
JL911 Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 My ex left me while I was in the process of starting a business and making investments for our future. I picked up another good life insurance policy and was making things happen to become even more financially independant, and have a little nest egg should our family need it some day...Its weird how these things happen...but i guess thats the breaks... Ill be ok...we all will...
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