selena_cat Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 Wise one, you wrote that exes tend to come back when you dont want them anymore,please elaborate on that,so the deal is if they sense u want them by keeping in touch with them against your better judgement,is that when they keep you on the string/backburner? how do you detach or not want someone who has been and seems to enjoy not being available to you? just looking for your-or anyones opiniom. Also i don't see any harm in you being friends w/your ex just make it clear to her she's just a friend.
BW007 Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 I have you beat. One of my exes found me after almost 18 years on FB! Whoa! We are friends again. Kind of crazy.
Author WiseOne1 Posted September 29, 2009 Author Posted September 29, 2009 Wise one, you wrote that exes tend to come back when you dont want them anymore,please elaborate on that,so the deal is if they sense u want them by keeping in touch with them against your better judgement,is that when they keep you on the string/backburner? how do you detach or not want someone who has been and seems to enjoy not being available to you? just looking for your-or anyones opiniom. Also i don't see any harm in you being friends w/your ex just make it clear to her she's just a friend. Exactly, I don't think you should keep in contact with a ex at all, either way it's not a good thing, think about it....What kind of self respecting person lets a person hurt them or break there heart, and they stay friends???? No one! The only way you could pull it off, is if when you and the ex break up you immeditely show no emotion and reverse it as "it's a good idea", but if you ever showed during any time of the break up, any hurt, then you have no excuse but to go NC. Also I just won't be friends with my ex because its way to embarrasing, you know the things you said and did to get them back, main issue is the disrespect that dumpers radiate during the breakup.
selena_cat Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 Exactly, I don't think you should keep in contact with a ex at all, either way it's not a good thing, think about it....What kind of self respecting person lets a person hurt them or break there heart, and they stay friends???? No one! The only way you could pull it off, is if when you and the ex break up you immeditely show no emotion and reverse it as "it's a good idea", but if you ever showed during any time of the break up, any hurt, then you have no excuse but to go NC. Also I just won't be friends with my ex because its way to embarrasing, you know the things you said and did to get them back, main issue is the disrespect that dumpers radiate during the breakup. I know not to keep in touch with him,but stupid me still does,and where does that get me,the same results,doing the same thing,nothing ever changes. Ever. Let that be a lesson to anyone who wishes to keep in touch with a dumper. 1. It will never get you anywhere but on the bottom of their list. 2. They will always keep you at a distance,as if they are afraid if they show you any grain kindness or attention,then you will actually be:eek: Omg! Equal to them! Thats exactly what they want to do is keep you and things unequal. sorry to rant and rave,feel like dunce for not staying on strict NC,and always giving the unworthy chances,but one thing is right wise, is the amount of disrespect they show you during and after the break up.
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 I know not to keep in touch with him,but stupid me still does,and where does that get me,the same results,doing the same thing,nothing ever changes. Ever. Let that be a lesson to anyone who wishes to keep in touch with a dumper. 1. It will never get you anywhere but on the bottom of their list. 2. They will always keep you at a distance,as if they are afraid if they show you any grain kindness or attention,then you will actually be:eek: Omg! Equal to them! Thats exactly what they want to do is keep you and things unequal. sorry to rant and rave,feel like dunce for not staying on strict NC,and always giving the unworthy chances,but one thing is right wise, is the amount of disrespect they show you during and after the break up. Their feeling of superiority is all in their head, and really has no backing other than how you've reacted. It's like printing money not supported by gold stores. It's all in their head, be indifferent to them feeling like they have the upper hand, and just live your life, and they wake up eventually. The best revenge is to have a good life.
selena_cat Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 Their feeling of superiority is all in their head, and really has no backing other than how you've reacted. It's like printing money not supported by gold stores. It's all in their head, be indifferent to them feeling like they have the upper hand, and just live your life, and they wake up eventually. The best revenge is to have a good life. I recognize that people like that have no basis,only thing they go on is the 'dumpee's feelings for them. i'm glad i'm not the only one who smells that BS a mile away
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