juliemariemo Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 I love my boyfriend so much i care about him in everyway, there are just a few things that drive me crazy. I mean I used to be the most confident and secure person and I don't really feel like that anymore and I know it is because of my boyfriend. He is 27 and this is his first real relationship, we have been together for a year and a half and own a house together. I know he wants to be with me but some of the things he does and says makes me think he does not. First of all he is always making these small lies. I will say what did you do after work today and he could say went to the store but really he went to his parents and I would find them out but blow it off cause it didn't make sense. Now they have gotten worse like i will hear his phone get a text message when I am upstairs and I will see it is 4:30 then when I come down for dinner later I will look at his phone and the text is deleted. I ask him and he says I wasn't texting I swear! The lies differ and I catch some but I am worried about the ones I am not catching! He says "none i swear you catch them all!" ya right I am not that good. Second he always compliments himself and how good he is at this and that and I am all for confidence but I know he is insecure about SOMETHING. He never says anything bad about himself but he is all about pointing out my flaws. I have a mirror you don't need to tell me I am not the skinniest bitch in town. I am 5 5 135 pounds not exactly over weight but when he is drunk he calls me out on my weight??? no one understands why either and I am very intelligent I have more schooling and experience then him but he always has something to say about my itelligence. Am I right or am I wrong you WANT to make your partner look good infront of people it makes YOU look good. I don't see why he likes putting me down in front of people. It is mostly when he drinks he gets like angry for no reason I can see it in his eyes and his tone changes and thats when he says these things about me and then the next day I go to talk about it and he says "I don't remember" he ALWAYS makes me give when examples like he doesn't know what he says hurts me!! I will be crying because he said something about my weight and he gets this sarcastic voice like ooo whats new your crying ooo Then when he is sober he smothers me with love and kind words and takes me out and is always texting me to have a good day and always saying he loves me and wants to spend forever with me. All his family says he always talks about me and he has changed so much they have never seen him like this with a girl. Its crazy! He really thinks these things are ok and I am all about doing all I can to fix a relationship before ending it. I wanna be sure I tried everything so I don't kick myself 8 months later when I am still in love and want him back and he has moved on and I don't know if there was something we could have done SOOOOO advice how can I fix this. What should he do? what should I do? He hates the "you need help" stuff his mom tried to get him to see a counselor that was a no go. How can we fix this on our own? I am exhausted because I never believe him, it tears me up when I am not with him because I don't know what he is REALLY doing. His comments have me feeling like he hates the way I look and he will leave me in a second if someone he finds more attractive comes around.
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