Lynx331 Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 So... I don't really wanna get into detail with this situations but I'm pretty confident that my ex is ****ing my boss... Due to the circumstances if I confronted my boss with it.. He would have to tell me.. Do I ask? Or forget about it? The only reason I really want to know is if she lowered herself to that.. I really wanna know if she's honestly that dumb.. What do you think?
JaggedRoad Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Stop caring... The relationship between you two is over, and you were the dumper. Go play some First Person Shooters and get your mind off of her.
Author Lynx331 Posted September 24, 2009 Author Posted September 24, 2009 Stop caring... The relationship between you two is over, and you were the dumper. Go play some First Person Shooters and get your mind off of her. I guess the only reason this bothers me is she ****ed him before we dated.. And I wanna see after all of the times she said it was a mistake and apologized to me etc etc etc if she was stupid enough to do it again. This is one of those situations where I think it will help and be beneficial for me.. What do you think?
JaggedRoad Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 It's only beneficial to you because it'll calm your ego. You are just freaking out because she's not under your control anymore; you don't really care about her well being. And honestly, you shouldn't care.
hoping2heal Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 I guess the only reason this bothers me is she ****ed him before we dated.. And I wanna see after all of the times she said it was a mistake and apologized to me etc etc etc if she was stupid enough to do it again. This is one of those situations where I think it will help and be beneficial for me.. What do you think? Well wether you are aware of it or not, this is just a way for you to stay connected in her life. I'm not sure how you think it would be beneficial? I don't think it would be for one and I'm not sure why you think knowing about it would be helpful. If it wasn't him it would be someone else, so what? You already know this girl is not right for you based on plenty of interactions and experiences you DO know about first hand, knowing who or if she's sleeping with someone won't make those incompatibilities and reasons she's not suited for you any larger or smaller.
northstar1 Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Move on, forget about it. See how breaking NC becomes a cycle? Always just a little more you want to say to them. Forget about them and focus on your future. It's not worth it.
Author Lynx331 Posted September 24, 2009 Author Posted September 24, 2009 Yea you guys are right, I think I just wantedto know so I would be more mad at her. That's about it.. So it would push me further away and upset me more with her. But you guys are right, I won't ask
Odyssey Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Lynx, you're gotta seriously let this thing go. Who cares about the boss? Who cares what she's doing or thinking? They're not your problem anymore. I'm sure they're not concerned about your life right now. Focus on the things that you can control - YOU.
hoping2heal Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Yea you guys are right, I think I just wantedto know so I would be more mad at her. That's about it.. So it would push me further away and upset me more with her. But you guys are right, I won't ask FYI Being angry or "mad" at someone doesn't make the hurt go away, it just masks it. It's going to take some time, but you WILL realise as you get back into your old hobbies, and start enjoying yourself that this girl was a hot mess. She mistreated you, took advantage of you, she was about as unstable as they come, and based on her reaction to your text message where she could have at least had the decency to act cordial, she's a straight up snooty patootie. No class, absolutely none. It was like a little kid throwing a temper tantrum because she didn't get her way. Seriously, you don't wanna be stuck at the "kid's table" the rest of your life.
Author Lynx331 Posted September 24, 2009 Author Posted September 24, 2009 Ok good points guys, thank you! I'll do that then thank you for dealing with my stupidness
trueblue72ny Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 my two cents stay as far away from that mess as you can. not only for your own sanity but for your paycheck. if she is that messed up it will only be a matter of time before that blows up, and when it does you should want to be as far away from it as possible. if my ex started sleeping with someone at my job, especially MY BOSS, dude, i would not ever look/speak with her again for the rest of my LIFE. seriously. that is messed up. another reason to never look back. why associate yourself with it. you are better than that.
hoping2heal Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Ok good points guys, thank you! I'll do that then thank you for dealing with my stupidness Nah you're not being stupid. You're just hurt. Even though you did the dumping, you did so out of necessity not out of will. You HAD to end the relationship because you were being constantly mistreated and uncared for, I know it's very hurtful to you that instead of chosing to step up to the plate, she just chose instead to go her seperate ways in search of someone who will just put up with her crap. That's all about her and who she is, and always was and nothing to do with anything you could of done, I hope you know that. Also, I hope you realise that had you ever stood up for yourself she would of walked away instead of cleaned up her act anyhow.
Odyssey Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 ...thank you for dealing with my stupidness As long as you learn something from it We'll forgive you.
Author Lynx331 Posted September 24, 2009 Author Posted September 24, 2009 As long as you learn something from it We'll forgive you. I did, because I was done with her.. And ok.. And I let this bother me.. Where if I said who cares about her I only need to worry about me this wouldn't have affected me
Enema Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 ...I'm pretty confident that my ex is ****ing my boss... I really wanna know if she's honestly that dumb.. What do you think? If he's your boss, then it doesn't sound dumb. A trade-up!
Author Lynx331 Posted September 24, 2009 Author Posted September 24, 2009 If he's your boss, then it doesn't sound dumb. A trade-up! hes also married with two kids but he's a pig that will **** anything and doesn't care
mimiminx Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 wow... this sounds like an ugly situation.. don't even concern yourself with it, just know that she's not worth your time.
trueblue72ny Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 i had to come back to this post..... bro....... i think everyone here thinks you did the right thing breaking up with her. and everyone knows that it sucks, but you did the right thing. you should be proud of yourself.
Author Lynx331 Posted September 25, 2009 Author Posted September 25, 2009 i am very proud of myself for what i did. Something interesting just happened tho. Quick story.. My parents, Her, and I bumped into my families dental hygentist at a restaurant. I introduced her. I just found out she said to my mom... what is he doing with her... i dont mean to be rude.. but shes trailor trash... Im just shock that she met her once.. for 2 seconds.. and that image was portrayed that quick...
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