truegirl Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 I took everyone's advice and waited to talk to a guy I have been seeing for about two months for the; "Where is this going talk." I got annoyed yesterday mornign and just text the question... The response was, "I guess we are dating and becoming friends through that course. He went on to say that if I was looking for something more serious he would understand." I told him I liked the pace things were progressing and thanked him for going slow.... So I text him this morning with pic a of me.... Saying something about my birthday... and hope he has a great time in Cali. WTF he can't wish me a damn happy birthday??? What is this I guess we are dating? What the hell; really??? I'm embarrassed... I shouldn't have said anything:o
redhighheels Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 First of all, this is not the kind of question you should be texting about, but bring it up in person. This way you can see his reaction, body language, the look of horror or sheer delight on his face and so on. Second, his reply is ..auch! A lot doesn't get conveyed through texts, but he's pretty much told you he's not looking for anything serious, take it or leave it. Whether you're ok with that or not, that's up to you, but it sounds like you're not...so why tell him you're fine with the current progression of things? He's given you a way out, I would take it if I were you. Don't beat yourself up for bringing it up, it's better to know now than waste more time on something that's not leading in the right direction for you. Sorry if this comes across as harsh. I've been in your shoes, got the whole "we're just dating, let's take it slow and see where it goes" speech, only to be dumped a week later. It sucks. Happy birthday, by the way!
loveslife Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Yeah, I agree. He was saying he considers you a friend and casual dating but would understand if you wanted more. The fact that he ignored your bday kind of underscores he non-committal attitude. If you continue to say you're okay with his attitude I don't imagine you'll respect yourself very much. I know it's hard but be glad you found out sooner rather than later.
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