yah Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 So I met this new guy a few weeks ago. We're early-20s. 1st date - coffee on a Sat. night. It was pretty awkward (blind date). Next day, I texted saying I had a good time, blah blah blah, and he replies that we should do something again. 2nd date - Dave & Buster's on a Sat. night. Had lots of fun, zero awkwardness, basically had a blast. Went to check out his apt afterwards, he played some guitar for me, ended with a nice kiss (think French minus tongue). Immediately next day, he E-mails me suggesting I assist him in cooking dinner & watching a movie at his place. We did that yesterday. Here's how it went.... We prepped the food together, that went fine. As soon as we moved to the couch I sat down and he sat right next to me, making sure his arm was touching mine. Throughout the movie same thing - whenever I got up or moved, he reciprocated with a move that positioned his arm against mine. :lmao: He mentioned a few times about a "next time." We had a good time, we even watched some Family Guy together and laughed our way through. At the end, we walked to my car, I didn't feel a kiss coming so I climbed in, said our goodbyes and he closed the door. Playfully, I texted him after he went in, "I'm surprised you didn't try to kiss me!" Immediately he comes out and knocks on my window and we kissed, tongue and all, for awhile, with me inside and him sticking his head in. He mentions a more specific time for "next time" and kept saying he wouldn't be in town this weekend (funny, I never mentioned I wanted to see him again...) like he was apologizing for it. 3hrs after I'm home, at 2AM, I get a text also mentioning a next time.. Question... Does this guy already assume we're an item or already heading to exclusive relationship status??? It's only the 3rd date, sure I'm looking for a long-term relationship but I thought we're still in the dating / checking-out-potential-people phase?? I'd like to be asked out again by him but I am wrong to feel its weird that he may be assuming we're together? Was the kiss wrong? Did I send the wrong message? Is it too fast? Not on the same page anymore? I like the chase, I don't want to be in a settled relationship with this guy just yet! What should I do/say (or not do/say) next time?
New Again Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Sounds like a regular dating scenario to me. Generally when a guy's interested he makes plans for another date...however, if you think he's not on the same page as you, go ahead and have a chat with him, casually mention it, whatever works for you.
redhighheels Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 I don't think he assumed you're together, more like he assumed you'd like to get together again, given that you more or less initiated the kiss and you both exchanged saliva. Seems like a fair assumption given the circumstances. Don't jump to conclusions just yet, and try to go with the flow and enjoy your time spent together. When and if exclusivity comes up, you can tell him your thoughts on it..if you still think it's moving too fast by then.
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