Author DustySaltus Posted September 24, 2009 Author Posted September 24, 2009 Eh, I feel you. You're in Brooklyn huh? I'll be in the city tomorrow night. Friends want to go to some lounge. lol. yeah man, the city is great this time of year.
trueblue72ny Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 i agree with your friends, im sure it completely SUCKS but i would try my best to just let it go and be glad that is the only thing you lost to this woman. maybe she will ship it back in time. just my two cents.
Author DustySaltus Posted September 24, 2009 Author Posted September 24, 2009 i agree with your friends, im sure it completely SUCKS but i would try my best to just let it go and be glad that is the only thing you lost to this woman. maybe she will ship it back in time. just my two cents. You know my mom is usually pretty quiet and supportive but in this case she told me I was lucky not to have kids with this woman because she would use them as pawns in her control game. I have to say that she was completely right about this one.
Author DustySaltus Posted September 24, 2009 Author Posted September 24, 2009 She basically just told me to go F myself. "Why would I ever give you back the ring after all you did to me". WTFFFFFFFFFFF??????????
silic0ntoad Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 She basically just told me to go F myself. "Why would I ever give you back the ring after all you did to me". WTFFFFFFFFFFF?????????? Wow. This girl is a total scumbag. Sorry, but she is definately off the Wheatie's box. At least I hope so. Dusty, if I were you, I'd cut my losses. LEt her keep the ring. It harbors nothing but bitter memories for you now anyway.
trueblue72ny Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 She basically just told me to go F myself. "Why would I ever give you back the ring after all you did to me". WTFFFFFFFFFFF?????????? ahhhhhh she sounds slightly unstable all the better reason to cut your losses and RUN FOREST RUN!!!!!!!!!
curiousnycgirl Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 I don't understand why you would have to go there to fight this in court. Just give a lawyer power of attorney (or whatever they call it over there). I am sure a lawyer can act on your behalf - and I'm fairly certain Israeli law will consider an engagement ring as given as part of a contract, etc. Frankly $5K is a boatload of money to walk away from! Ooh wait was it insured? File a claim that it was stolen - woohoo, let the insurance company go after her - tee hee
Trialbyfire Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 DustySaltus, read Ronnie's post again. How does Israel view engagement rings? Is it a gift or do they follow the premise of the U.S.? Did you give her the ring on Israeli soil or U.S. soil? U.S. law is moot since I believe, you gave her the ring in Israel.
Star Gazer Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 so when you get an engagement ring it still belongs to the man who gives you it? Who decided that? Not in California. It depends on the circumstances of the breakup. If he breaks up with her, she gets to keep it.
CaliGuy Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 This woman has said on five different occasions that she would give me the engagement ring back along with the rest of my stuff. I have tried to keep contact with her to a minimum but the fact is that she decided that she didn't want to pursue things. I didn't want that but then her actions since that moment have made me understand that it really is the best thing (see old posts). She told me a week ago that she was sending everything the next day from Israel to America. I have yet to receive anything, I asked for a tracking number...she told me to leave her alone because she already told me she was sending everything. Now if she's sending EVERYTHING back including a $5000 engagement ring don't you think she would have let me know where it was an when to expect it? I mean this isn't a pair of sneakers. She dips in and out of contact, I have no idea what is going on anymore. Now I am really getting upset and although most of my friends are saying to take it as a loss, with the way she's been going about things it makes me really want to get it back. It's been 3 months now since this occured. I have my good days and bad days but in this situation I really just don't know what to do anymore. Anyone have any ideas? Thanks For your own sanity, I would forget the ring and other items. They are just "things" (yes I realize they are of value) but she doesn't appear to want to give them back and... trying to get them back is keeping you in contact with her and frustrating you. No amount of $$ is worth my happiness. If I had an ex do that to me, regardless of the principle, as long as she promised to never contact me again, she could eat the dang ring for all I care. Just leave me the frak alone!
QueenVictoria Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 That's slightly rude. My comment was harsh Salty. I am sorry.
wondering_girl Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 definitely she should give it back, that just shows that she still respects him, man she's RUDEE i'm sorry you're going through this.
hoping2heal Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Well, fwiw I'm pretty sure there are NO tracking numbers int'l. I could be wrong, but I know when I send things int'l I'm told there are no tracking no's when it's international. She's been nasty as hail for a long time, so she's probably just dicking around and doing what she can to still be nasty. That's why she's doing this, cause she's always doing this kind of childish, snakey ****.
Exit Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Hah this girl is like my ex times ten, sorry that you have to deal with this BS. If you're in any sort of financial status that you can just let the ring go, DO IT, and break the control that she has over you.
Author DustySaltus Posted September 25, 2009 Author Posted September 25, 2009 There are really two sides to this: I could fight her for the ring but since she is a lawyer, you know this thing is going to court. The thing is I bought the ring off a jeweler friend of mine who took a loss on it. It's actually worth more than what I paid for it (I had it appraised), when does that happen? She's really just acting like a little kid. It's almost like she's just going, "na, na, nana, nah....your not getting it"! AND SHE'S 31! On one hand I just want to want to do whatever I have to do to get it back. But on the other hand for $5000 I got a sneak preview on how crazy and vindictive this woman really is. People would say I got off cheap. I think you're right Caliguy, you can't put a price on happiness. I think I just have to let it go....I can't let this drag on for another year. I'm sure she'll do something else to piss me off but I just really need to make a concerted effort to IGNORE everything. Thanks for your input guys and gals, I appreciate it.
hoping2heal Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 There are really two sides to this: I could fight her for the ring but since she is a lawyer, you know this thing is going to court. The thing is I bought the ring off a jeweler friend of mine who took a loss on it. It's actually worth more than what I paid for it (I had it appraised), when does that happen? She's really just acting like a little kid. It's almost like she's just going, "na, na, nana, nah....your not getting it"! AND SHE'S 31! On one hand I just want to want to do whatever I have to do to get it back. But on the other hand for $5000 I got a sneak preview on how crazy and vindictive this woman really is. People would say I got off cheap. I think you're right Caliguy, you can't put a price on happiness. I think I just have to let it go....I can't let this drag on for another year. I'm sure she'll do something else to piss me off but I just really need to make a concerted effort to IGNORE everything. Thanks for your input guys and gals, I appreciate it. She is coo coo for cocoa puffs-bat ****- looney tunes crazy as hail. Are you not GLAD you did not marry and try and have CHILDREN who woudl be under the influence of this woman? Yes, it was a 5 thousand dollar ring that she is now using to keep excersizing power over you and you are allowing it to work. Understand that, you are giving her a medium to exert power and control over you. You are giving her the world's biggest boner in doing so. Going there to fight the case, would do nothing but keep stroking that nice hard control boner she's got right now. The best thing you could do for yourself is drop the whole thing altogether and stop talking to her at all, I don't think you realise how much that is going to bother and spite her to lose control over you and secondly, it will take YOU out of the picture and help you heal.
CaliGuy Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 I think you're right Caliguy, you can't put a price on happiness. I think I just have to let it go....I can't let this drag on for another year. I'm sure she'll do something else to piss me off but I just really need to make a concerted effort to IGNORE everything. WWABD?! (What would Al Bundy do?!) If he were you, my guess is he'd forget about the ring and anything else of yours she might have for the sake of his own sanity. And I think that's what you need to do here. When you think about it, it's just money. They are not worth the mental anguish you are going through trying to get them back. WWABD?! -- "Take my wife....no really!"
georgia girl Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Here's a solution: file a lawsuit against her in the U.S. There's nothing you can do about it now. However, if she ever comes back into the U.S., then she can be served. You can sue her in small claims court for $35. Or, as another poster put it, you could hire an attorney in Isreal to at least send her a demand letter. If she gets a demand letter and, as an attorney, knows that the law in Isreal (and I have no clue what it could be) would be that she would have to return it, then she will likely return it through the attorney. Shouldn't cost you more than a few hundred bucks - and I would not walk away from $5,000. Just me... I'm cheap and a huge believe in doing the right thing.
Author DustySaltus Posted September 25, 2009 Author Posted September 25, 2009 WWABD?! (What would Al Bundy do?!) If he were you, my guess is he'd forget about the ring and anything else of yours she might have for the sake of his own sanity. And I think that's what you need to do here. When you think about it, it's just money. They are not worth the mental anguish you are going through trying to get them back. WWABD?! -- "Take my wife....no really!" lol, u made my day. you're right, thanks man
hoping2heal Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Here's a solution: file a lawsuit against her in the U.S. There's nothing you can do about it now. However, if she ever comes back into the U.S., then she can be served. You can sue her in small claims court for $35. Or, as another poster put it, you could hire an attorney in Isreal to at least send her a demand letter. If she gets a demand letter and, as an attorney, knows that the law in Isreal (and I have no clue what it could be) would be that she would have to return it, then she will likely return it through the attorney. Shouldn't cost you more than a few hundred bucks - and I would not walk away from $5,000. Just me... I'm cheap and a huge believe in doing the right thing. Why is doing the right thing getting his ring back? Because it was 5 thousand dollars instead of 1 or 2 hundred? I mean in all fairness, SHOULD he get his ring back? Yes, he should. BUT Because of the circumstances with this woman, she is using that ring to goad him and prod him and hold the power olympics. I don't see how contributing and egging that on with that kind of person is the "right" thing just because there was 5G's involved.
Author DustySaltus Posted September 26, 2009 Author Posted September 26, 2009 Why is doing the right thing getting his ring back? Because it was 5 thousand dollars instead of 1 or 2 hundred? I mean in all fairness, SHOULD he get his ring back? Yes, he should. BUT Because of the circumstances with this woman, she is using that ring to goad him and prod him and hold the power olympics. I don't see how contributing and egging that on with that kind of person is the "right" thing just because there was 5G's involved. Plane Tickets to Israel: $4000 One Engagement Ring: $5000 Realizing you may have dodged a bullet: Priceless
hoping2heal Posted September 26, 2009 Posted September 26, 2009 Plane Tickets to Israel: $4000 One Engagement Ring: $5000 Realizing you may have dodged a bullet: Priceless LMFAO. EXACTLY. Seriously, nothing will piss her off more completely and thoroughly then you flat out ignoring her, having nothing to do with her, sending nothing to her, not trying to persue this matter further. I mean it will fry her ass like eggs in a pan.
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