Nikki Sahagin Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 ....how did you find your closure? My ex broke up with me by email and I have really lacked the face to face confrontation that most break-ups provide. He has said we can meet and talk face to face - should I take this up? (its been 4 months now) or should I let it lie? If there is hope for friendship or any kind of respect between the two of you, and there's the risk you will see each other out anyway, do you need that face to face talk?
hopefulInFuture Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 It depends on you and it also depends on the reasons you broke up for. If your break up was because of another person I don't think there's really anything to talk about. The facts talk about themselves. I would not want someone that cheated on me in my life so I wouldn't even bother about talking out. If you broke up because your personal problems, difficult period in life but whatever happened between you was not disrespectful and you think you can forgive and move on, then you might try to get your closure. But first determine for yourself if you need one. Do you want this person in your life? Will you suffer if you met him for the face-to-face talk? If you've already moved on and don't care about whether it's going to work out between you and he than you might try. Otherwise, stay away.
joseffrost Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Yep. A phonecall, after two years of apparent bliss and plans to move in/get engaged/spend the rest of our lives together etc. After all this, all she needed was a phonecall to say "that's it". I got my closure by spending a vast amount of money and taking a day off work to fly from London to Ireland for the day and hire a car. Did she care that I went to this effort? Did she f**k.
logitech Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 I was really dumped via email. She first said she wanted a break face to face. Then the bomb was dropped 2 days later via the ol' interwebs. I had spoken to her a few times face to face but I can't say I will ever get closure. Anything answered brings up more questions. Or they go in circles. If it's already 4 months there is probably no point to a face to face.
NSW768 Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 i did this. u can read about it here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=202446&page=4 i would say its up to you. for me it gave me great closure, but just keep in mind he could make it hurt more and most everyone on here will tell u its a bad idea and theyre probably right.
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