Limbo21 Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Really struggling with nc at the mo ...* 8 days today - it's getting harder She says her heart says 1 thing, her mind says another. She says she loves me with all her heart but I'm not right for her, she's trying to fall outta love with me.* The battle with my thoughts are that this decision (stick to nc or break it) will shape my future with her for the rest of my life - that's a big decision for me, it's weighing heavy on my shoulders & the load is getting heavier daily Of course the ultimate desicion lays with her not me but worried that every day that goes by is a day were drifting further apart I need to find strength to understand there's nothing I can do ... Or is there? All I do is mentally pour over this & I'm making myself ill Help me community! Talk some sense into me
gavinus Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Hey Limbo21 take some advice....let her go. If you let her go she may come back, if you try to hold onto her she will never come back. If you keep in contact with her how will she miss you? How can she want you if you are there. I know how you feel, stay NC and show her what she is missing and if she never comes back that truly shows what she really thinks of you. Your self respect can never be taken away....you have to give it up, don't give it up stay NC, just read all the posts of the people who lost there self respect, me included, stay NC be strong you can do it!!
Snugglepuss Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Yes, be strong and remain in no contact. Be as stubborn and prideful as I am even though it eats away at you. Maintain self-respect like gavinus said!
Author Limbo21 Posted September 24, 2009 Author Posted September 24, 2009 Thanks guys See that right there helps Gavinus! You are talkin * sense & that's why I asked for your input This*is*the*2nd*time we've split.*The*first*time*she*wanted*reconciliation*within*7-8*weeks, she dumped her rebound. I*was*overjoyed!* A*religious*thing*cropped*up*(as*my first post*states)*and*she*claims*she*can't*be*with*anyone*just*yet (can't find the link) I've*acted*a*little*petchulant,*sent*her*a*goodbye*text*-*left*it*for*2*days*then*changed*my*mobile*number.*Wish*I*hadn't*now*cos*it's*got*me*thinking*she*maybe*would*think*I'm*ignoring*her I*try*to*accept*a*posters*view (caliguy*I*think)*that*if*she*wanted*me*she*would*be*at*my*door!*I*also*think*being*dumped*twice*is*enough*for*anyone*but*I*played*a*large*part*in*the*split*&*we*were*going*through*a*rough*time*but*hey*...*I'm*in*love*...*I'm*blind
Snugglepuss Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Can't sleep either? I am writhing in my woes over this damn ex of mine. I am going to go cold turkey and be in NC for the rest of my life. All I need now is to create my own closure.
Author Limbo21 Posted September 24, 2009 Author Posted September 24, 2009 Thanks guys See that right there helps Gavinus! You are talking sense & that's why I asked for your input This is the 2nd time we've split. The first time she wanted reconciliation within 7-8 weeks, she dumped her rebound. I was overjoyed!* A religious thing cropped up (as my first post states) and she claims she can't be with anyone just yet (can't find the link) I've acted a little petchulant, sent her a goodbye text - left it for 2 days then changed my mobile number. Wish I hadn't now cos it's got me thinking she maybe would think I'm ignoring her I try to accept a posters view (caliguy I think) that if she wanted me she would be at my door! I also think being dumped twice is enough for anyone but I played a large part in the split & we were going through a rough time but hey ... I'm in love ... I'm blind thanks guys
robinincarolina Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 I have been in no contact for 8 weeks, fell off the wagon twice. It does get easier. It is important to stay in no contact because as someone said earlier, they can't miss you if you are always there. They have to feel the loss completely. Another thing may happen during no contact. You have time to really think about the relationship and you may find that you agree, she or he is not right for you. That's where I am right now. I still care, but he is not for me. I deserve more. The first few weeks are the worst by the way, get through that and you will be on your way to recovery.
JaggedRoad Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Thanks guys See that right there helps Gavinus! You are talking sense & that's why I asked for your input This is the 2nd time we've split. The first time she wanted reconciliation within 7-8 weeks, she dumped her rebound. I was overjoyed!* A religious thing cropped up (as my first post states) and she claims she can't be with anyone just yet (can't find the link) I've acted a little petchulant, sent her a goodbye text - left it for 2 days then changed my mobile number. Wish I hadn't now cos it's got me thinking she maybe would think I'm ignoring her I try to accept a posters view (caliguy I think) that if she wanted me she would be at my door! I also think being dumped twice is enough for anyone but I played a large part in the split & we were going through a rough time but hey ... I'm in love ... I'm blind thanks guys It's alright dude, I've been dumped three times by the same girl. I have a friend whose brother went in and out of marriage with the same girl 5 times, and another friend whose parents broke up three times prior to their marriage. Things happen in life. If you guys are meant to be, you'll find each other again.
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