sweet_peach115 Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 I moved across the country for my boyfriend when he was offered a new job. Things didn't really work out but we are still together on the verge of breakup. I took a trip back across the country to visit some friends and ended up spending a lot of time with one of my guy friends and we really connected. He told me he thinks I am special and that he really likes me and I really like him too. Now that my trip has ended I cannot stop thinking about him!! I feel like I am losing my mind. The feelings are overwhelming. I am facebook creeping him all day and I feel like a psycho. My best friends are trying to convince me to move back and I am seriously considering it. The only problem is that I am so scared to quit my job, sever all ties with my semi-ex (3yrs together) and start a new life back on the other side of the country. My family is here where I am living now. I need advice!!!
D-Lish Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Just don't stay with someone for the wrong reasons. It's easy to do in the present, but hard to reconcile with later on. It's one of those situations where you will kick yourself later on. If you want to make a break from your ex but aren't ready to give up your job- move into a new place- or back with your family that lives close to you. Don't remain with someone because it's convenient- what you save in the present won't feel worth it in the future looking back...
N'aix Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Getting feelings for another person while in a relationship is always going to happen. Even if you are with the best guy in the whole world your always wondering 'Well maybe with this guy it will be different'. Its the crappy part of a relationship. Why are you even considering leaving your guy? Has the relationship gotten stale? Other wise- you should NOT leave the person that your with unless you have a problem because there is no such thing as Love and first sight, but only lust. Lust may not be the most appropriate word but im sure you know your boyfriend alot better than this other fella. If you have any other info, or want to go deeper into detail Id love to get back to you. )))
Author sweet_peach115 Posted September 24, 2009 Author Posted September 24, 2009 We have been together for 3 years but the majority of it has been rocky. A year of it was spent long distance which was very hard and we broke up several times during this period. In the past year and a half my boyfriend has told me a few times that he doesn't know if he is in love with me, if I am "the one", or if he will ever want to marry me. It seems like we no longer have anything in common or share any of the same goals. I really do love him but I have become unhappy with life in general.
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