th0997 Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 We've been dating for around 6 months now. Recently, she's been saying things like I deserve better than her, she can't focus, and that she needed space. Yet, she still comes around and checks in with me daily. Ever since we've met, she no longer flirts with other guys. She seems to spend most of her free time with me. Most times, I'm the one who has to end our dates, because I have school/work in a couple of hours and so does she. Our dates would go on till 3-4 in the morning, and we have class at 8. She's told me that she misses me so much she can't concentrate. Also, that she's extremely insecure around me/about me. And when we're together, she never wants to leave which is why she wants her space to focus. She says I'm distracting her. Ego aside. I really do think she's into me. She seems to be in a constant wanting to be around me and yet pulling away, b/c her feelings are so intense. She says she's needy/clingy. I really don't know about all of this!
Strawberry Cane Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 I'm thinking that she might be self concious, or have a negative view about herself... but it seems from what youve mentioned here that she is COMFORTABLE with the relationship she has with you, which is why she wants to hang out and spend time with you. She might be pulling away because she's dealing with personal issues that she feels she can only do on her own. On the other hand... she might be so down on herself that shes starting to believe that you are better then her... which is NOT GOOD... It's unhealthy to believe that you are not an equal in your relationship (as far as I am concerned)
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Has she been hurt badly in the past? This might have been a romantic relationship or a family relationship...just somebody that hurt her. I'm thinking that maybe she's just used to being more in control of her feelings and you're not making that possible. (Not your fault...just sayin) Yeah, I'd say she's definitely into you, just worried about not being "in control." Problem is, commitmentphobes say that phrase - being afraid of not being in control. I'd say coupling that with "needing space," she might be CP. I don't have a clue how to deal with them. Maybe someone else will have a better opinion.
Hkizzle Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Sounds like she's been hurt in the past and scared to get close to someone. She needs to understand that not everyone is the same.
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