Die Hard Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 I'm not talking about physical attributes. But what are some things you love about the female species. Here are mine: I love how understanding they can be when I'm down. The way they can put their arm around you and make the world seem a better place. I love how their patience seems to be endless. I love how they are always more positive about things than I am, and I love how it rubs off on me. I love their loyalty. When a good woman cares for you it seems as if their loyalty knows no bounds. Even when I've been a bad boy(within limits) they will still stick by you even if they are mad at you. I love how they are not as likely as my friends to judge me. Please men, post some things you love about women that has nothing to do with looks.
GorillaTheater Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Making this applicable to women in general as opposed to my wife in particular, which I think is what you want, is difficult to put into words. There's something about the "energy" of a woman, for lack of a better word, which I enjoy immensely. I'll think on it some and see if I can phrase it better. But I also like how they smell.
Thaddeus Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 I like this. It's a refreshing change from some of the slagging that goes on back and forth. I love to hear women laugh. Not that sardonic, cruel laughter ("Oh, he's SUCH a JERK!! HAHAHAHA!!") but that wonderful chortling when they get one of my absurd jokes or watch a good comedy or read a funny book or story. I love the energy they can bring to a serious situation. Not every woman can carry this off, but there are some women I know that can lighten a mood just by their presence. And I love their caring, nurturing nature. Again, not every woman is like this, but I'll never forget the look in the eyes of the nurse at the hospital when my first wife's body was brought in. She knew I was completely and totally distraught, but she sat me down and placed her hand on my arm as I was wracked with grief. She spoke comforting words in low tones; I don't remember what she said, my mind was a blur of pain and grief, but just that warm touch meant the world to me at that moment. Thank you, Janet! They tend to smell better than most men, too.
Author Die Hard Posted September 23, 2009 Author Posted September 23, 2009 Granted my current run with the female species, the only thing positive I can say about women is looks at the moment. Otherwise, all of them play f*cking games. You just gotta remember that there is NOTHING that a woman has done to you that men don't turn right around and do to women. We all have our flaws but I think it would be cool to focus on the positive for a change. There is a heck f a lot more to women then their looks or us men would simply all go to brothels. There are tons of great things about women to cause us to want to spend time with them beyond looks and sex. Us men need to admit that from time to time, imo. If for no other reason than to keep ourselves honest and balanced in regard to our view of women.
Thaddeus Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 But I also like how they smell.Ha! GT beat me to it on the olfactory delights!
GorillaTheater Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 I love to hear women laugh. Oh hell yes, that's a sound that can make your day. They tend to smell better than most men, too. That's two votes for smell.
C-i-C-u Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 I'd like to think women were a good thing, in my life. But the women I really seem to connect with are already taken. And then I know that if they weren't I'd mostly not like them. I know people can be mean to each other, and I have been mean to many, but that was in elementary. It seems that people don't really care about one another, especially women. Women won't like you unless, they want company until someone better comes along. But that has just been my experience. I don't really think I should have posted, and no I am not whining. I'm just saying my experiences have never really been good with women, and most write me off from the get go.
Author Die Hard Posted September 23, 2009 Author Posted September 23, 2009 I'd like to think women were a good thing, in my life. But the women I really seem to connect with are already taken. And then I know that if they weren't I'd mostly not like them. I know people can be mean to each other, and I have been mean to many, but that was in elementary. It seems that people don't really care about one another, especially women. Women won't like you unless, they want company until someone better comes along. But that has just been my experience. I don't really think I should have posted, and no I am not whining. I'm just saying my experiences have never really been good with women, and most write me off from the get go. What about your mom? She's a woman. Most all women will be someone's mother someday. You can't think of some positive things about your mother that relates to all women in general?
silic0ntoad Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Ok. I guess I can say something positive. I love how they work their hands. They give good massages. I also love the look they give you when they are saying they love you with their eyes.
C-i-C-u Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 What about your mom? She's a woman. Most all women will be someone's mother someday. You can't think of some positive things about your mother that relates to all women in general? You already said it though. My mom has nothing but the utmost of loyalty to me even when I have done some very stupid things. I know many women will become a mother someday, and I wish that more moms were like mine, but not all mothers are good ones as fathers. But being a bad father is all too common, and acceptable. Its why when you see a good father, that is a a rarity, and you know that children are going to be ahead of life, because of the strong mom and dad influence.
bayouboi Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 I love how they cook and clean! And have babies!
Author Die Hard Posted September 23, 2009 Author Posted September 23, 2009 You already said it though. My mom has nothing but the utmost of loyalty to me even when I have done some very stupid things. I know many women will become a mother someday, and I wish that more moms were like mine, but not all mothers are good ones as fathers. But being a bad father is all too common, and acceptable. Its why when you see a good father, that is a a rarity, and you know that children are going to be ahead of life, because of the strong mom and dad influence. Even though I said it, it doesn't hurt for you to say it too My dad died when I was 13 and I cannot express how lucky it was that way. Had my dad lived and my mom died I don't think he'd have been the parent she was. She made sure i had a normal life, showed up at ALL of my football games in high school, was involved in my life from top to bottom and sacrificed MUCH to make sure I was happy healthy and had as close to a normal life as she could. I don't think any man could be this self sacrificing. She basically up having a better life to make sure my brother and I were happy and had as normal a childhood as she could. I don't know what I'd have done without her. I don't even know how to thank her. When I try I get a weird feeling and have trouble experssing it to her. I hope to do it before she dies....just tell her how much she means to me and that I know all the sacrifices she made.
GorillaTheater Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 I don't even know how to thank her. When I try I get a weird feeling and have trouble experssing it to her. I hope to do it before she dies....just tell her how much she means to me and that I know all the sacrifices she made. Take your mom out to dinner and just tell her. Boo hoo a bit if you need to, no shame there. But none of us are guaranteed tomorrow. You don't want to ever have to deal with the regret for not telling her how much you think of her.
Rudderless Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 The way in which they make you feel like the funniest guy in the world when they laugh at your jokes. The cute way in which you can be their hero by doing something like getting rid of a spider. The general nurturing nature. And the way in which they always surprise you with something new. Women are great.
Author Die Hard Posted September 23, 2009 Author Posted September 23, 2009 Take your mom out to dinner and just tell her. Boo hoo a bit if you need to, no shame there. But none of us are guaranteed tomorrow. You don't want to ever have to deal with the regret for not telling her how much you think of her. I know you're right. I was in the car with her the other day and tried to start but felt like I was going to start crying in the process, so I ended up holding it in. But yeah you never know what will happen next and I gotta get it out before something happens to her.
sb129 Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Write her a letter or card DH. Then she can keep it....and read it again and again. I did that for my mum after my dad died. And I also got to tell my dad how I felt before he died too- and you are right, its so important.
Author Die Hard Posted September 24, 2009 Author Posted September 24, 2009 Write her a letter or card DH. Then she can keep it....and read it again and again. I did that for my mum after my dad died. And I also got to tell my dad how I felt before he died too- and you are right, its so important. I was thinking of something like this but part of me really wants her to see my face and eyes so she REALLY knows I mean as opposed to the regular "you're a great mom" type thing. I feel I have to say it out loud to her, especially since it's so hard for me to say. Thanks for the suggestion. might give her a card during a dinner out or something and after I've verbalized it first. Something else I love about women. The ones I've known in my life show empathy...as in being able to put themselves in my shoes. I love when that happens
Angel1111 Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Even though I said it, it doesn't hurt for you to say it too My dad died when I was 13 and I cannot express how lucky it was that way. Had my dad lived and my mom died I don't think he'd have been the parent she was. She made sure i had a normal life, showed up at ALL of my football games in high school, was involved in my life from top to bottom and sacrificed MUCH to make sure I was happy healthy and had as close to a normal life as she could. I don't think any man could be this self sacrificing. She basically up having a better life to make sure my brother and I were happy and had as normal a childhood as she could. I don't know what I'd have done without her. I don't even know how to thank her. When I try I get a weird feeling and have trouble experssing it to her. I hope to do it before she dies....just tell her how much she means to me and that I know all the sacrifices she made. You would be able to say it if you had even the slightest clue how much it would mean to her. She needs to know that she gave you a wonderful life and that you don't even have the words to thank her properly. If you can't say it to her face, then send her a card at Christmas and write it in there. That way, she can read it over and over again. If something happens to her and you don't ever let her know, you'll be so sorry. And there won't be any way to fix it at that point. As a single mom who also did everything I could to give my son a good and normal life, I can assure you that your gratitude will have tremendous meaning to her. I told my parents this once - that after I had grown up I realized that so many people had really bad childhoods. I thanked them for being the parents that they were, and giving me the life I had. About 6 mos later, they both died - 8 days apart. I can't tell you how sorry I would've been if I had never told them how much I appreciated them. Parents need to hear this. It makes all the struggles worthwhile.
Author Die Hard Posted September 24, 2009 Author Posted September 24, 2009 You would be able to say it if you had even the slightest clue how much it would mean to her. She needs to know that she gave you a wonderful life and that you don't even have the words to thank her properly. If you can't say it to her face, then send her a card at Christmas and write it in there. That way, she can read it over and over again. If something happens to her and you don't ever let her know, you'll be so sorry. And there won't be any way to fix it at that point. As a single mom who also did everything I could to give my son a good and normal life, I can assure you that your gratitude will have tremendous meaning to her. I told my parents this once - that after I had grown up I realized that so many people had really bad childhoods. I thanked them for being the parents that they were, and giving me the life I had. About 6 mos later, they both died - 8 days apart. I can't tell you how sorry I would've been if I had never told them how much I appreciated them. Parents need to hear this. It makes all the struggles worthwhile. You have to understand the dynamics here though. I grew up with my mom being a father and a mother. The dynamic between us just makes it difficult for me. Had she just always been the nice soft mother most get have, it would be a heck of a lot easier. But she also had to be the hard as nails dad when I was a teenager. I know it would mean the world to her because deep down I do not think she realizes that I TRULY understand the sacrifices she made to make sure I had as normal a life as possible. Maybe I'm making excuses too. It's just very hard to make myself do this. The emotions I start to feel,etc. How do you thank someone for foregoing their own happiness for yours? I can't count how many times I've started to say it then started feeling the tears come and it makes me stop...thinking I'll do it another time. I know you're right. I need to get it done for both our sakes.
BobSacamento Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 I love when they call touchdowns "goals" or "runs"
carhill Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 What about your mom? She's a woman. Most all women will be someone's mother someday. You can't think of some positive things about your mother that relates to all women in general? LOL, she was yelling at the walls today as usual and I had to steal myself from slapping her because of all the outright lies she exemplified as the female role model in my life. Faithful, trustworthy, polite, patient, strong, stable and hard-working. If it hadn't been for her, I likely would've been much more successful with women, because I'd have known how they really are. (The part about yelling at the walls is true. She just stares blankly and yells; doesn't recognize me anymore) To end on a positive note, I did see a glimmer of hope with the words and actions of a friend's wife whom I visited this weekend, showing me that there are women out there who can be interested and interesting and empathetic. Hope abounds
Island Girl Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Thank you for this thread DH. It is a blessing to see a woman through the man's eyes today.
Sam Spade Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 The thread about posting something positive about men has twice as many posts as this one I wonder if this is because 1) Men are indeed better than women (hence many more positive things to be said about them) or 2) Women are better than men because they can let go and guys stubbornly can't :laugh:
Sam Spade Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 LOL, she was yelling at the walls today as usual and I had to steal myself from slapping her because of all the outright lies she exemplified as the female role model in my life. Faithful, trustworthy, polite, patient, strong, stable and hard-working. If it hadn't been for her, I likely would've been much more successful with women, because I'd have known how they really are. (The part about yelling at the walls is true. She just stares blankly and yells; doesn't recognize me anymore) To end on a positive note, I did see a glimmer of hope with the words and actions of a friend's wife whom I visited this weekend, showing me that there are women out there who can be interested and interesting and empathetic. Hope abounds No, no hope! Or at least it is matter of extent - I have a wonderful girlfriend who is mildly interesting, mildly interested, and mildly emphatetic I seriously doubt it can get any better than that, and I mean it in a non-defeatist way, a happy guy here . My mom also taught me valuable lessons about women - specifically, if you don't perform up to high standards of success, you get no love:) (even from your own mom ).
Crimson Tide Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 The thread about posting something positive about men has twice as many posts as this one I wonder if this is because 1) Men are indeed better than women (hence many more positive things to be said about them) or 2) Women are better than men because they can let go and guys stubbornly can't :laugh: Women are much more expressive than men. Simple as that. It doesn't mean that men or women are better than one another.
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