Lynx331 Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 So today I broke a weeks worth of no contact. For anyone that hasn't been following.. I dumped her about 2 weeks ago on grounds of I didn't like how I was being treated. It was no contact for a week until today. I get a text message from her this morning saying hi how are you? I was not going to respond at all. But lately I've been reading no more mr nice guy.. And realized I had my share of problems I brought into the relationship. Long story short.. I texted her today.. "hey, I just want to say something then I will go. I blamed you for 100% of our relationship problems, I just wanted you to know that I have realized that wasn't the case, I had my short comings also, and I am going to a counselor to fix myself. Take care of yourself". She the. Replied with I contacted you earlier on accident, please don't contact me again. I have moved on". Now normally that would be a nice blow.. And hurt me.. But to be honest I feel like the slap in the face.. Helped me. I honestly feel better now. I really do. Just figured I'd post this up here since it was a case of breaking NC that made me feel better.
NSW768 Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 I contacted you earlier on accident, please don't contact me again. I have moved on yeah right^^
hoping2heal Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Yeah right is right. But I agree, you should feel better cause you know what? You just saw first hand that despite her "I'm gonna change and it's gonna be awesome" line of BS, she's still just a nasty little rat terrier personality wise. Lying and then being rude..pfft..that should of sealed the deal for you that she's not a keeper in this condition.
Author Lynx331 Posted September 23, 2009 Author Posted September 23, 2009 Oh definately I feel great now actually, I really do. She just wants me to start thinking omg she has someone else I better go fight for her. I feel alot better now... A whole lot better! :-D And even if she did move on, good, great, that made it even easier on me yet!
jaybird1043 Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Why would you give her that much info about you??? You owe her nothing and you are just being that puppy dog trying to get your belly rubbed. She was not 100% to blame may be true but you have no need to tell her that! I thought you said you were reading NMMNG, none of these behaviors would ever be encouraged. YOU ARE LYING TO YOURSELF! YOU DO NOT NEED HER VALIDATION, STOP IT!
Author Lynx331 Posted September 24, 2009 Author Posted September 24, 2009 Why would you give her that much info about you??? You owe her nothing and you are just being that puppy dog trying to get your belly rubbed. She was not 100% to blame may be true but you have no need to tell her that! I thought you said you were reading NMMNG, none of these behaviors would ever be encouraged. YOU ARE LYING TO YOURSELF! YOU DO NOT NEED HER VALIDATION, STOP IT! Very good point actually! Lol didn't think of that, but in this case, it actually worked out for the best! I feel alot better about everything now.
Maxwell Sage Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 'Just wanted to say that when you're the one who broke things off... Coping comes about one hundred times easier... Perhaps that's why you're not hurting? Just a thought...
BCCA Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Well, I agree she was lying about accidentally texting you, but jesus man, did you have to go straight into a super serious topic? If you were gonna reply, why not just a simple 'im good, you?'. I hope this hammers it home: NC NC NC!
Author Lynx331 Posted September 24, 2009 Author Posted September 24, 2009 Oh yea, NC definately, especially since I see even after swearing up and down it's gona be awesome and she changed, it's the same mind game once again... Thankyou all for you opinions! :-D
JaggedRoad Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 As people said in another post, NMFP (Not My[your] F'n Problem)
Author Lynx331 Posted September 24, 2009 Author Posted September 24, 2009 As people said in another post, NMFP (Not My[your] F'n Problem) Damn that was fast.. Lol Didnt realize anyone caught that before I edited It out
Beeotch Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 So today I broke a weeks worth of no contact. For anyone that hasn't been following.. I dumped her about 2 weeks ago on grounds of I didn't like how I was being treated. It was no contact for a week until today. I get a text message from her this morning saying hi how are you? I was not going to respond at all. But lately I've been reading no more mr nice guy.. And realized I had my share of problems I brought into the relationship. Long story short.. I texted her today.. "hey, I just want to say something then I will go. I blamed you for 100% of our relationship problems, I just wanted you to know that I have realized that wasn't the case, I had my short comings also, and I am going to a counselor to fix myself. Take care of yourself". She the. Replied with I contacted you earlier on accident, please don't contact me again. I have moved on". Now normally that would be a nice blow.. And hurt me.. But to be honest I feel like the slap in the face.. Helped me. I honestly feel better now. I really do. Just figured I'd post this up here since it was a case of breaking NC that made me feel better. Great for you! There are no loose ends left and now you can do No Contact in a genuine way. There is not anything to be said to her after that so you can feel this weight off your chest....I know the feeling.
It's Me Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 So today I broke a weeks worth of no contact. For anyone that hasn't been following.. I dumped her about 2 weeks ago on grounds of I didn't like how I was being treated. It was no contact for a week until today. I get a text message from her this morning saying hi how are you? I was not going to respond at all. But lately I've been reading no more mr nice guy.. And realized I had my share of problems I brought into the relationship. Long story short.. I texted her today.. "hey, I just want to say something then I will go. I blamed you for 100% of our relationship problems, I just wanted you to know that I have realized that wasn't the case, I had my short comings also, and I am going to a counselor to fix myself. Take care of yourself". She the. Replied with I contacted you earlier on accident, please don't contact me again. I have moved on". Now normally that would be a nice blow.. And hurt me.. But to be honest I feel like the slap in the face.. Helped me. I honestly feel better now. I really do. Just figured I'd post this up here since it was a case of breaking NC that made me feel better. How do you contact someone by accident? This girl is straight up stupid. Forget her man. Good call on breaking up with her. No go find yourself a woman and not a girl.
Author Lynx331 Posted September 25, 2009 Author Posted September 25, 2009 Yes I do feel like a weight is off my chest, and yes I now see she's stupid. I'm just filled with so much anger lately. I'm seeing the way I treated her, which no ones perfect, but I busted my butt to try and make her happy and make he r a better person, and now I see the way she treated me DESPITE all I tryed to do for her.. I am so very angry with her right now.. All I gave up.. All I sarcrificed.. And I was being pulled around on a leash..
It's Me Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Yes I do feel like a weight is off my chest, and yes I now see she's stupid. I'm just filled with so much anger lately. I'm seeing the way I treated her, which no ones perfect, but I busted my butt to try and make her happy and make he r a better person, and now I see the way she treated me DESPITE all I tryed to do for her.. I am so very angry with her right now.. All I gave up.. All I sarcrificed.. And I was being pulled around on a leash.. The girl is freakin dumb as a door knob. Forget her man. It's not even worth being mad over. Just be happy that she contacted you and made herself look ridiculously dumb trying to retract it. She's probably thinking about how dumb that must have sounded right now.
gummybear Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 I agree that what she did was really dumb, but I was once that girl, and I can tell you she's doing these crazy things because she's having trouble controlling her emotions. She probably treated you poorly not because she's a bad person but because of her anxiety and emotional instability issues. I can tell you for a fact that she is in deep pain right now....alot worse than how you are feeling. She probably misses you loads but is afraid to show it to you. While I feel sorry for her because I've been in her shoes when I was her age, I agree that you should maintain NC and move on from her. She's not ready for a relationship yet.
Author Lynx331 Posted September 25, 2009 Author Posted September 25, 2009 The girl is freakin dumb as a door knob. Forget her man. It's not even worth being mad over. Just be happy that she contacted you and made herself look ridiculously dumb trying to retract it. She's probably thinking about how dumb that must have sounded right now. Lol I hope so, but if I know her.. She probably thinks she "stuck it to me" because she said she had moved on
ATR Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 The fact that you felt better after breaking contact shows that you still seek her validation... which is definitely not encouraged by 'No More Mr. Nice Guy'. This will probably sting in a few days, so were will you go to feel better next time... contact her again?
Author Lynx331 Posted September 25, 2009 Author Posted September 25, 2009 The fact that you felt better after breaking contact shows that you still seek her validation... which is definitely not encouraged by 'No More Mr. Nice Guy'. This will probably sting in a few days, so were will you go to feel better next time... contact her again? It wasn't the contacting her that made me feel better, it was the fact that I was unsure about one thing. All of he other times she promised to change, wellthis time she had been going to counselng and said she realized what she had lost etc etc. And my mind said wow maybe it's true.. But then when she played the mind game it was like a big weight taken off me because I saw it wasn't gona change, i now know whole heartidly believe in what I am doing.. NC
ATR Posted September 26, 2009 Posted September 26, 2009 Fair enough. But what i'm saying isthat when you truely are her it wont matter what she does, you should feel indifference. At the moment she has caused this "weight" to come off you, that shows she stills has some control over your feelings.
Author Lynx331 Posted September 26, 2009 Author Posted September 26, 2009 Fair enough. But what i'm saying isthat when you truely are her it wont matter what she does, you should feel indifference. At the moment she has caused this "weight" to come off you, that shows she stills has some control over your feelings. Well yea I stil care about her.. But everyne says that will fade with time
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