lookin4he1p Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Alright I'm a 19 year old college guy and I have a difficulty talking to and meeting women. I was thinking the other day maybe I should go around to pretty girls and just give them a compliment like they look real nice, so I can get more comfortable talking to the other sex. Now I'm wondering if this is a good idea, or a good way to get the creeper tag thrown on me around campus. Please let me know what you think.
AlektraClementine Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Perhaps a better exercise is to just strike up conversation. Not necessarily about how they look. And not necessarily just with women. I'm s shy girl but I have learned some tricks in overcoming it. I practice it at the grocery store, the tag office, wherever. I strike up conversation. Also another good trick - People LOVE to talk about themselves. Once a conversation gets going, ask questions. About their job, their interests. Ask follow up questions. Hopefully along the way, you'll meet people who can return the favor (i.e. ask you questions). This works, I promise;)
forever_waiting Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 TBPH, if a stranger just walked up to me and said something like 'you look really pretty,' i would be more weirded out than flattered. that's the kind of thing you get from a drunk guy in a bar and it's kind of creepy. i would say i agree with the last poster- look for cues to strike up some small talk with a woman. make it flow naturally, like the cliché dropping your book/pen etc when someone's next to you. just don't make it obvious i'd suggest talking to lots of different girls equally, not just sexy ones, and you'll have a better chance of getting to grips with the opposite sex as a whole. good luck and do your stuff
Nightsky Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 First off you’re going about this all wrong by looking for a women’s point of view. As a 19 year old man you should be looking for the successful mans point of view. I agree with Alectras advice.You need to focus on conversational skills and really you shouldn’t focus on women you find attractive alone. Complementing random girls on solely their looks will have a high chance of making you seem creepy. A safer way to complement girls on their looks is if they are wearing pretty shoes or something then complement the clothing item. [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][/FONT]
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