angelface78 Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Its been 3 months of NC after a 5 year relationship. We were engaged ...and he wanted time apart ..he said we both needed to think about things. What he really wanted was to mess around. Well his sister ended up telling me that he was messing around with some girl. I was actually gonna sit around and wait for him until i found this out (stupid i know) I never even added guys on my myspace because he didnt like it. After the breakup i didnt have any guy friends on there either (because i still had hope) Then i find out hes messing around with a girl and his sis says live your life hes my bro but hes a jerk. So i add somebody..a very good guy friend who in reality likes me. I said screw everything!! Well the ex saw him and wrote to him telling him who he was and so on. The point is that now that he saw the new guy his perfect little plan of coming back after messing around got ruined because my guy friend told him that yes he likes me and that hes gonna persue me. Well my ex has a huge ego and is very proud... any chances of him coming back are over. He was angry and told my guy friend..."go for it then shes all yours!" I know that he is not happy with that girl..he is now stuck with her and has to front on myspace that he is "ssooo happy" since he sees the comments my guy friend leaves me. My guy friend is wondeful and there is chemistry betwen us..he respects me and is always there for me. He tells me that he knows i am not ready for a relationship but that he will wait until i am. Guys how can i?? Im never going to get over my ex...and it just hurts so much that he didnt even want to "fight for me" he just handed me over like..you can have her..due to his ego. As if i had no say in it! I know he still loves me and is miserable..he knows he messed up. I know this guy I spent 5 years of my life with him. Why couldnt he put his pride aside for me?? Sorry i know im rambling but bottom line i feel like im never going to get over him and now all the while he is taking refuge in that girl. A girl that i know he does not love..but hes foolish so foolish!! He destroyed us!! Im trying to move on but its been 3 months and the reality that its over keeps sinking in and im not getting better only worse!!
Taucher Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Hey, 3 months NC after a 5 year relationship is not long. I started a thread with this topic just yesterday (me = dumped 4 monthst ago after 5 year relationship) and people told me that is no time at all. And I think they are right. Your ex sounds like he has some issues to sort out. He sounds a bit immature imo. Take care T P.S. You will get over him. I "feel" like I wont get over my ex, but I know I will.
Author angelface78 Posted September 23, 2009 Author Posted September 23, 2009 Thanks Taucher..i want to believe that i really do. Its sooo hard!!! I know you understand..i read your thread about how you broke down at the park or something like that. I understand you ;(
Taucher Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Ah yes. Well I was on a bench next to the Thames near where I live. I just try and separate how I feel from what I know, if you see what I mean. I have not been dumped and felt so low - this girl meant the world to me. I have friends who have been dumped over the years and they say they will never meet anyone like their ex, and they will NEVER have another partner. But guess what, they do find someone new in the end. So, I feel right now that no-one will EVER compare to my ex. She is the most beautiful woman in the world etc. But this is common and just shows me that I am not ready for anyone else. One day, it will happen for both of us. I promise. T
Exit Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 You will get over it. First you have to get through the very real withdrawl from the chemicals and hormones that your body releases when you're in love. It is no different than breaking any other addiction. It takes time and it takes being completely away from whatever you're addicted to.
Maxwell Sage Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 The chemical balance thing makes perfect sense. Exit, hats off to you.
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