Somedude Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 My relationship started out the best thing in the world. The typical fairy-tale romance where each and every second was ecstastic. Of course over the months, reality was slowly stepping into the picture and things just got a little tough. I have some anger issues and it no doubt is the main thing that came between us. I dont want to get into too much detail on the relationship itself, just what I'm feeling now and how to get through it.. I can't stop thinking about how it was when were first got together, and can't seem to remind myself of how rough it was for the past 6-7 months. It sucks, every little thing about my life somehow brings my thoughts to her. She moved out a few days ago and we have texted each other a few times (we didn't end on a bad note, we just decided it was 'best' for us to split) and it just sucks thinking I'll never see her again. I hope it gets easier
Raphownsyou Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 It will get easier my friend, You guys were honest to one another and thats what is important because it will lead you both to great happiness, as friends as whatever you know?
GrayClouds Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 My relationship started out the best thing in the world. The typical fairy-tale romance where each and every second was ecstastic. Of course over the months, reality was slowly stepping into the picture and things just got a little tough. I have some anger issues and it no doubt is the main thing that came between us. I dont want to get into too much detail on the relationship itself, just what I'm feeling now and how to get through it.. I can't stop thinking about how it was when were first got together, and can't seem to remind myself of how rough it was for the past 6-7 months. It sucks, every little thing about my life somehow brings my thoughts to her. She moved out a few days ago and we have texted each other a few times (we didn't end on a bad note, we just decided it was 'best' for us to split) and it just sucks thinking I'll never see her again. I hope it gets easier Even though it didn't end in a bad note, you should serious think about telling her that for now you need no contact to give you time to heal. It will help her too. The more you two interact the longer it is going to hurt and take to move on. Stay busy with friends, family, hobbies and exercise. Sorry and good luck, it will get better.
It's Me Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 You'll be fine dude. The initial sting always sucks but time heals all wounds. Keep your head up. Be a proud man. It's not the end of the world. It's just a break up. You'll meet someone new eventually and she'll be a better fit for you.
Author Somedude Posted September 24, 2009 Author Posted September 24, 2009 We have talked things over some, and I have come to a lot of realizations in the past few days. I was taking my relationship for granted. I was doubting if I wanted to be in a relationship for a long while, but after being without her for this bit of time, I know now that my doubting was for nought. I love everything about this girl, and now that she has moved out and we have talked it over and I have explained that I was having doubts but now that I don't have her, I realized all my doubts were for nothing. I told her I love her and that I am so sorry for the way everything has been for as long as it has (In a nutshell, I would get really upset about small things and they would get dragged into huge ordeals of nothing.. but over time they no doubt took their toll on her and us) and I made a lot of mistakes but know what I truly want and that is her. I really hope and pray things somehow will work out. I am going to see her today and I don't know what will come of it, but I am so excited . She also told me she didn't want me to worry about her moving on. I know she still loves me and I hope more then anything things will work out and I can prove to her that I am serious about us. The thing I hate is waiting. I know things can't happen instantly, but I know in my heart things will no doubt be good like they were before again because I now know what I want. Thanks to anyone that reads.
Katherineos123 Posted September 25, 2009 Posted September 25, 2009 Im glad you two got a chance to talk. It takes a strong man (or anyone for that matter) to admit faults. Its no easy task humbling yourself.... but it seems as if you have told her that you admit things werent perfect, and that is was partly your fault, but most importantly, that you are recognizing this, and willing to work on it... Kudos to you. I wish my ex would come to these realizations.... **sigh** So how did things go with you guys tonight? How long have you two been split up? And have you been in contact the whole time?
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