Kiss on the first date... important?

[JoeShmoe17]

If a first date (with someone who you met online) goes really well and it seems like they may want them to kiss you at the end of the night, does it send a 'friend' vibe if you just go in for a hug and no kiss at all? I actually really liked the girl, I just decided not to kiss her on the first date. It seemed like her in interest in hanging out again died after the hug (she expressed more enthusiasm about it earlier on).

 

Did the lack of kiss make her put me in the friend zone, or was it perhaps that she just was not that interested? I followed up later in the week by saying that I had a nice time, so hopefully that made the message clear I was interested... she responded saying she had a nice time too, and later she only seemed mildly interested in getting together in the future.

 

So could a lack of a kiss on the first date actually make someone disinterested, or is it not that big of a deal and there are likely other factors involved?

[Sam Spade]

Hard to tell. My policy is to never kiss on a first date though. Too contrived.

That said, I have women friends who tell me they wouldn't go on a second date unless there is a kiss on the first. I tell them that's stoopid.

[compre11111]

I don't think it's a big deal.

 

I didn't kiss my girlfriend on the first date, and went for the hug instead -- I think the feeling was mutual. The date wasn't terrible, but it wasn't the absolute best, so a kiss wasn't really that appropriate.

 

We had a much better 2nd date, though, and kissed then. And with each date, we got progressively more intimate. That's really what you should be looking for: whether you're making progress with each date. If you're still hugging after 2 or 3 dates, then it's time to wonder. By date 3, you should definitely have kissed, however.

[wierdmunky]

You can always kiss on the cheek or neck?