Sassouki Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 hi, am new here and i want your advice about this situation am 22 and doing language exchange with a 25 yrs old Korean guy, we have been meeting for language exchange session for about 5 weeks now (2 times a week) and went once for dinner together after that i went for a trip, and he sent me few emails saying that he missed talking to me and wish we would meet soon am back in town now, we met twice, the first time he was saying i looked very cute and even sent me an email after that saying again that i looked cute and the second time,today, we didn't do any language exchange we just talked about many topics, including dating and international relationships etc .... then he asked me if i had a boyfriend (he asked this question before), i answered that i don't have one now, so he followed by saying , how about i become your boyfriend ?? the question was awkward , i took me some time to get it and before i said anything he said he was JOKING !!!! so i just let it pass by, but we still fixed another rendez vous to go to a movie together (as part of the language exchange) does all this means he wants to go out on a date!!! or does mean he want me to be his girlfriend !!! i can't figure it out and if he really does want a serious relationship, how can i bring the topic up again?? or should wait for him to do so?? as for me, am not 100% into him, but i don't mind giving him a chance
SpanksTheMonkey Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 hi, am new here and i want your advice about this situation am 22 and doing language exchange with a 25 yrs old Korean guy, we have been meeting for language exchange session for about 5 weeks now (2 times a week) and went once for dinner together after that i went for a trip, and he sent me few emails saying that he missed talking to me and wish we would meet soon am back in town now, we met twice, the first time he was saying i looked very cute and even sent me an email after that saying again that i looked cute and the second time,today, we didn't do any language exchange we just talked about many topics, including dating and international relationships etc .... then he asked me if i had a boyfriend (he asked this question before), i answered that i don't have one now, so he followed by saying , how about i become your boyfriend ?? the question was awkward , i took me some time to get it and before i said anything he said he was JOKING !!!! so i just let it pass by, but we still fixed another rendez vous to go to a movie together (as part of the language exchange) does all this means he wants to go out on a date!!! or does mean he want me to be his girlfriend !!! i can't figure it out and if he really does want a serious relationship, how can i bring the topic up again?? or should wait for him to do so?? as for me, am not 100% into him, but i don't mind giving him a chance If you ask me he wasn't joking he just said that because things were awkward and you didn't respond right away so he took the emergency exit out of the situation hes def into you in a big way..
Curious-One Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 he definitely wants you! He was just shy as man korean guys are. If you want to go out on a date with him than you should tell him that you guys should go out on a date once.
ReturnToSender Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 I dont know if Id tell him to go on a date...yup he is definitely pursuing you, and building up his courage, I would give him half a chance to do that... Seems to me he is feeling you out to see what your reaction is, if youd be open to it. And I agree..he said he was joking to "save face" after the awkward moment. Id suggest, if you are open to going on a date with him, then give a positive reaction, and open and friendly towards the idea. Like, I dont know about the whole "be my girlfriend" thing...because you dont know if you want a relationship, or serious one, until you get to know someone on a certain level... But Id probably respond with something flirty jokey like...well, I dont know about that, but asking me out might get your foot in the door. Granted..Im a traditionalist and dont ask guys out, but even so..it really seems to me that this guy is trying really hard to build up the courage to ask you out, and just needs that bit of hope that you will say yes and not shoot him down. Hes not being terribly shy about it either I have to say...he wants to go for it. Let him do that
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