Shivangi Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Hello everyone, I'm new here and a complete newbie to the concept of dating. I am separated from my husband and though I am over the heartbreak (left me a little jaded but nothing that Time+Love won't heal), I am unable to date. I am a student and I work fullt-ime so it is impossible for me to have a social life and behaviourally I am not someone who flirts/dates etc. At the insistence of a friend, I joined some online dating sites (don't judge please:rolleyes:) and have cold feet even for men who contact me and actually are long-distance so there is time for me to recover. Fast forward to the problem, a very sweet guy who I found attractive contacted me but he is significantly older which is fine by me ebcause I am attracted to slightly older men but also teh fact that he has children from a previous relationship. I, beingcompetely silly, refused him but now I am having second thoughts because he seems nice. Maybe things will work out, maybe they won't but at least I will have tried. Question is, how do I contact him without looking like an idiot (put my foot in my mouth) or looking like someone desperate/overbearing? I am very shy, painfully so... If there is something I have left out, do let me know and I'll fill it in for you. Don't be judgemental please. Thank you for reading.
robotsavage Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 i dont see anything wrong w/ contacting him again. if you re pretty casual about it, i dont think it come off as being desperate, just that you needed to reconsider him.
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Just contact him, tell him you had second thoughts and would like to see if he's still interested in getting to know each other. Keep it simple and the message short. You go into too much detail and it'll look like you're trying to fall over yourself apologizing and that WILL look desperate. BTW - ha...online dating runs rampant around here. Nobody's going to judge you for using it. Well, I'm sure some would, but the use of it is pretty widespread here. LOL
Author Shivangi Posted September 23, 2009 Author Posted September 23, 2009 @robotsavage, SoulSearch Thank you. I guess I comitted two blunders back to back - online dating and refused a guy I like (sheesh!!). I am going to think of a message to write tonight and send it then I guess I will be at peace or I'm going to go crazy thinking of opportunity lost. XOXO P.S;: Sorry about all the spelling errors. I am typing on a multi-lingual keyboard and just can't seem to get the hang of the darn thing
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