taylor13 Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Hi everyone, I have been seeing this guy for a few months. I'll do my best to summarize. He's a super nice, genuine, respectful guy. Very cute and has lots of great friends (I always think friends are an indicator of someone's personality). I really do believe he has good intentions at heart..... However, he recently lost his job. He was fine at first but grew cold after a while. We had (what seemed to be) the breakup talk, but after only a small period of not talking he came back and said that he misses me. He explained that not having a job has been eating away at him and that's why he's grown cold. He also said that not being around me as made him realize that he doesn't want to lose me. I think I made the mistake of jumping back into this too quickly. It really hurt me when he broke things off. I can tell he's getting frustated about work again, and I'm just afraid/paranoid that the same thing is going to happen (although it hasn't yet). I've come to learn that he pushes people away when things get bad and I just don't know how to deal with it. Can this work? I don't want to be pushed away again At times I feel like I should end all contact and see if he gets his life together, but that doesnt seem right either. I care for him so much, which makes me that much more scared to lose him again.
boldjack Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 For some people, losing a job is a very embarassing experience. It can affect them in so many ways. Self-image being the most important. If you care for this Guy, communicate your fears to him, and make sure he knows that your feelings are about him, not his employment status.
Maxwell Sage Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Help the poor guy get through it! If the situation becomes too negative, stressful or toxic, break it off before you become miserable as well.
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