JoeShmoe17 Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 The scenario: Went on a first date with a girl which seemed to go surprisingly well (to me). There was lots of smiling, eye contact, laughing, etc. At the end of the date she requested that I give her a call the following week so we could get together again and figure out plans, and she seemed generally interested in seeing me again. A few days later and at the beginning of the following week I got in touch with her about making plans for the week and suggested specific days. She responded right away and said that it turns out she was busy the whole week, but could 'maybe' do the next (didn't supply any specific day alternatives). Is the general "busy but maybe another day" with no follow up day suggestion a sign that there is not a lot of interest there, or would I jumping the gun too quickly in assuming? I'd like to pursue her if she is interested and just legitimately busy for one week, but don't want to waste my time if she's just not that into it.. I've been trying to get back into the dating world, and learning to feel situations out as they come.
taylor13 Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 It sounds like she is unsure, but keep trying! Girls are a lot more cautious than guys and will often put them off at first. Personally I am rarely sure about a guy in the beginning, in fact there are several guys I've previously dated who I HATED upon first meeting them! It depends on the girl. My advice is to keep trying. She might turn you down, but at least then you will know for sure.
BlueHarvest Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 per⋅se⋅ver⋅ance [pur-suh-veer-uhns] –noun 1.steady persistence in a course of action, a purpose, a state, etc., esp. in spite of difficulties, obstacles, or discouragement. IN SPITE of obstacles, difficulties, discouragement. That means trying again. Many girls find this trait a turn on, it shows you have drive and dedication. Overdoing it can be a turn off, so try to figure out the fine line between being persistant and annoying/creepy.
Thaddeus Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Three possibilities: She actually is all jammed up and simply doesn't have time She's just not that into you She likes you but wants you to chase her to feed her ego. So how to test for it? Call her once more - just once - and suggest another date. If she blows you off again but suggests an alternative, it's #1 or #3. But if she won't suggest an alternative, it's #2. My sense is that it's #2 or #3, but that's just a guess.
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